I think my 7-yr old daughter has Seperation Anxiety Disorder. Anyone know anything about this?

Danielle - posted on 11/30/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have one child - a 7yr old daughter. She is wonderful! She is smart, caring, kind, funny, big-hearted, independant, well-mannered and loves to try new things.

I think she suffers from Seperation Anxiety Disorder. She calls me from school and daycare saying she has a "stomach ache" but then is fine if I pick her up. If we are together she doesn't complain of a stomach ache at all. She gets very upset at bedtime because she wants me to come to bed with her and says it's because "she misses me" even though I am in the next room. She has been worried and talking alot about me dying (for no reason). She frequently says she wishes we could stay home together everyday. If I step foot into the bathroom she is right behind me and will sit on my lap while I'm going to the bathroom. She tells me all the time "Mommy, I just love you too much" and "You're my favorite person in this whole world". If I have any type of appointment that she cannot attend (such as a hair appt) she cries like she will never see me again. This has been going on for a couple years. We have never been seperated so I don't know where this would stem from.

Anybody else going through this, or gone through it? I feel horrible that she seems to be so worried I won't be around. Not sure what to do other than schedule a visit to the pediatrician.

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Danielle - posted on 09/05/2012

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I'm glad to know I'm not the only Mom going through this. I'm hoping with the new school year starting (today actually) that she will be able to cope better than last year, and Kindergarten. She still seems to have a form of seperation anxiety, and she still talks about my (possible) dying. I told her we will not discuss/focus on morbid thoughts, and we will embrace positive thoughts. It has seemed to help - but it's only been a week since that discussion.

She cried when I had to make a less than 10min trip to the grocery store. She cries (a little) at bedtime still and says 'When you walk out of my bedroom I feel sad'.

Her father and I have not been together since she was 2-1/2, and he is very much involved in her life, and he and I get along great. He has not complained of her doing this at his house, but she has always 'preferred' Mommy.

I'm hoping it's something she will eventually 'grow' out of. Its not so bad that it's completely disruptive, but I don't want to dismiss her feelings either.

I feel the same way you do - frustrated, but heartbroken that she feels sad, and upset.

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Talking to the ped is probably a good place to start. Maybe they can recommend a good counselor for her.

My 3.5 year old son exhibits some similar behaviors, but on a MUCH smaller scale and he has gotten a lot better in the past year.

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Tracy - posted on 09/05/2012

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I have been recently going through the same since school started. I feel like I wrote this paragraph when I read this. My daughter has said some of the exact same things. I know you wrote this over a year ago but have you had any changes for improvement? It always seems to get worse when it is doing something out of our normal routine. Weird thing is She doesn't do this for my husband. Very frustrating and heartwrenching at the same time.

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