Michelle - posted on 06/07/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
I'm a 40 yr old women, no children. When I met my bf I was going through a lot of things. I became disabled and lost my job. My life changed dramatically. Then he came along. He's strong, dependable and very genuine. I felt he is the one. We're both divorced. He had 2 young children, 10 and 15. After 6 months. His daughter was being abused by her mom. We took her out of that situation. He was helpful financial and emotional. At that time I wasn't receiving much for my disability. I had to rely on him for some things. But, I pretty much took care of my home. It was a struggle, but I managed. When I stared getting well enough to live beyond comfortable. That's when we moved to a bigger place. The 3 of us. His daughter became rude, disrespectful and very ungrateful towards me. I've spoken to her and him on numerous occasions. Now, it's turning into, "I'm picking on her". Since we moved. I put all the money on the new place, paying all the bills and buying things for us. Still being disrespected by his daughter with no repercussions from him. I'll disapline her by taking things away. But, still get no respect. No recognition on what she does is wrong. No apologies nothing. So as time goes on. Still no help from the man. I brought it to his attention about helping.( Which I don't think I should have. ) This has been going on for 5 mnths now. He paid some bills for the last month. But, not rent. Bills that he suppose to pay due to an agreement he made with my family member, he paid randomly but, not consistent. I've been paying for him. Making it look good for him. Promising me trips and taking me places. I haven't seen nothing yet. So recently, I sat back and analysed my situation. And came to this conclusion. Here's the catch. He wanted to get me an engagement ring. With my credit card. Hmmmmm, now when the bill came. I gave it to him. No attempt to pay. So I brought the ring back. Not on my life, will I pay for my own ring. So, now I'm thinking about the whole picture. His hateful daughter. The way he let's her run things with no boundaries. When I'm stern I'm wrong. So f#! $ it. She your child u raise her. Not in my home. But, he won't leave. He's on the lease. I'm not a mean person to just kick them out. Just like a man. Who pays all the bills and provides for his family. He deserves respect. Not me!!! I'm not getting that. I have a gut feeling and I'm trying to be settle about wanting to change for the better for me. I know he won't take it lightly like a man and except what is about to happen. I'm hoping he does. I'll offer to give him money to get another place. It's just not working for me. And I'm very unhappy.