LynnM - posted on 12/15/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
So last night I was cleaning my house and I had moved some boxes into the closet in our room and when My husband got home he got mad because they weren't where he wanted them. He flipped and started dumping the boxes on the floor and took the changing table and tipped it over. then he broke a few things that were in the closet. the whole time he was yelling at me and saying "have fun cleaning this up bitch". then he stopped and told me he was done and that he was moving back in with his grandma and that me and the kids could live here and he would pay for it. then he said he never even wanted kids but didn't want to be alone. after the fight was over it was like a switch was flipped and he started saying he was sorry and that he wasn't going to leave and that he didn't know why he said all the things he did and that me and the kids are his world and that he love them and being a dad. and He kept saying he didn't know why he got so mad over something so small.
His family has a history of anger problems and bipolar. His mom is bipolar (But I think she is more BPD, my sister is BPD and they act so alike). and his Uncle use to beat him up and take his anger out on my husband from when he was a little kid till his Uncle moved out of his grandma's. so I wander if he just doesn't know how to control his anger because this is how he saw his uncle act.
I just don't know how much more I can take. the other day he acted like he was gonna hit me while I was holding my son and a few minutes later my son did the same thing to me when he was mad. I want to get him help, but don't know who to talk to. if I said anything to his family they would just take it out on him or me (depending on who I talk to) and I don't want that.
His good days are great and he is an amazing Dad and husband. but his bad days are hell. and I just don't know what to do anymore!