Brianna - posted on 10/05/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
Not a "mom" question. I'm just worried about my sister. My little sister and I are not very close. She was adopted when I was away in college. She's now 21.
Yesterday, she barged into our parents house with her 3 yr old. She looked distressed and had a broken finger. Mom asked her if something was going on with her husband, but she said no. We found out that her husband was out of town at his condo with his mom (they have two houses) since the day before yesterday. So, whatever happened to her is not husband-related. She said she was okay, and when asked about her broken finger, she said she doesn't remember how it happened.
Last night, as I went to turn off our desktop computer that she had been using, I saw that she left her email opened. She was in the middle of writing an email, where she said, "leave me alone." I know I shouldn't have gone through her emails, but I did. There were multiple conversations between her and her ex-boyfriend, Travis, who is about 7-8 years older than her. My parents told me that they dated when she was 14 and that he had gotten her drunk once and taken advantage of her.
They had a child together when she was 15. I've never met the child. From what I know, Travis took him from her and wouldn't let her see him. The child died at 3 yrs old I believe in a car accident while in Travis' care. My parents then precluded all further contact between my little sister and Travis. Since they, she's had another child, married, and is now pregnant again.
The emails I saw were very disturbing. He was telling her that she belonged to him only and that she would hurt her soul if she ever hurt his heart. He said that he was pissed about her being with another guy and that they would be happy together. I found out in other emails that he went to see her yesterday morning while her husband was away. What I find most disturbing is that he said, "next time I won't be so nice when you refuse me" and "you know now to suffer consequences of your actions." That got me thinking that he may me the one who has broken her finger.
In other emails, he requests for her to meet him places (for sex I guess) and if she doesn't she'd regret it and also says, "you know I know where you live." My parents told me that my sister is very afraid of him, but would always deny it. They once told her that they were going to call the cops on him and she freaked out and begged them not to.
I am afraid that she is pregnant with his child because I remember her husband had said how could she have gotten pregnant because he doesn't remember having sex with her recently because he was sick. There were threats after threats in the emails and I am afraid for my sister. She probably takes Travis' threats seriously and is afraid of what he might do to her if she tells anyone. He is very intimidating as she's a tiny girl and he's tall and strong.
I don't know what to do at this point. Should I talk to our parents first, should I talk to her husband or just talk to her? I'm afraid that if I talk to her, she'll deny everything and won't come back to us when she needs help. I don't know