I think of death during my first and second pregnancy, am I going crazy?

Rothana - posted on 10/18/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I only have this dramatic thoughts in my head every time I'm driving.

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Suzanne - posted on 10/18/2009

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I think this happens to a lot of us. I used to having awful bad dreams about alien babies and other such horrors each time I was pregnant. I think it is just anxiety and hormones making us imagine the worst possible things that could happen now we have this precious baby growing inside us and all the responsibility that comes with it. I suppose it just shows how much care and concern we have for our kids and we wouldnt be normal if we didnt!!

SUZANNE - posted on 10/18/2009

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No,I still do almost everyday and it's been two years since I have had my child.I think it's because I am so scared of something happening to me and someone else taking care of my son. I am a single mom and I am extreamly carefull and make differant choices now that I have him.My doctor says it's because I am a new mom.

Tiffany - posted on 10/18/2009

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its anxiety...and i guarantee i know exactly what ur going thru...i had severe anxiety, and i can tell u its crazy...not u, but the thoughts..its part to blame by the hormones, the other part is possibly OCD, or just plain generalized anxiety disorder...if after the baby is born u still have it, or u feel like u may harm urself or baby, or someone else( i wanted to kill everyone that came in my path..) definitlt let ur dr know!! ttys, good luck :)

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Liset - posted on 10/31/2012

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Im 36 weeks with my first kid nd im so scared that something is going to happen to me ...i was always trying to have a kid and i always asked god to send me one before i died .. and now that im having a baby im so scared .. can some please help these thoughts go away lol

Aniesha - posted on 10/18/2009

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I had terrible nightmares through the early stages of my pregnancy, worried about miscarriages, my baby dying, etc. And I ended up with the most beautiful healthy little boy ever. It just means that we love our babies & don't want anything to happen to them I reckon.

Leanne - posted on 10/18/2009

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the mind is a powerful thing hey. iwent thru the same. i think the thought of bringing anothe child into this world along with the surge of horemones is overwhelming and any fears you have no matter how deep come to the surface. it sounds pretty common so i wouldnt worry bout it. if it is realy bad and upsetting you talk about it with someone close,get it off your chest. i aslo found a book bye penelope leach (baby to 5 years i think it was called) very helpful. it shifted my focus to other more pleasent positive thorts.i cant spell i know lol good luck and peace out x

Rothana - posted on 10/18/2009

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Thanks for replying... I guess it's just the hormones taking affect on me. I just have bad experience with my childhood in the past. I just don't want anything to happened to me and my family. Bad thoughts as in rape, homicide, suicide, incest, torture etc. I think about it after doing research online, watching the news or witnessing a death that just happened in other third world countries that I've been to.

Adell - posted on 10/18/2009

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I started to have VERY paranoid thoughts of someone kidnapping my baby as soon as he was born, if not while I was still pregnant. Motherhood simply changes your brain in a way. I used to LOVE horror movies but now I cannot even stand to watch a commercial for one. There are thoughts we have that we cannot control but for the most part I think "thinking the worst" is just a mom's way of preparing for the worst.

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... figures i didnt get to read the rest of the posts it only showed me the first 2 >> wow i hate servers and comps sometimes.

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Its hard to answer that if you do not give out more information, however thinking of death in any shape way or form cant always be good. i would say really look at why you are thinking about that and then see if theres any real triggers. from there write it down in the order they come in and what effects it has on you. if you actually feel you have to go do something bad like this. remember your not the only one in your body right now. and afterwards you have a beautiful lil one that will need you in the future.
its not wrong to think of them its wrong to act on them. , i know this because i went through something simmiler .. just something to think about.

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I doubt it. You're probably worried that you're going to die, which would mean you wouldn't be there for your child. Or, you're worried that your child is going to die, which is every parent's worst nightmare. Or maybe both. Have you had any complications with your pregnancies? I had complications (at the end) of my pregnancy (only had one), but they were serious, and could have been MUCH worse (yes, the complications were potentially fatal for both me and the baby). Any time I think of being pregnant again, my thoughts go to that as well. As awful as it is, I think it's natural. Worrying and motherhood seem to go hand-in-hand. If you think it's happening too much, or if it's stopping you from doing things that need to be done, you should probably talk to your doctor. Take care.

Sharon - posted on 10/18/2009

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Depending on where those thoughts are headed .... kind of depends on the answer



but when looking at the future - its only natural to see all the possibilities.. including death. Life & death go hand in hand.

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