I've been separated for 3 1/2 yrs divorce will be finalized within month,my kids have known from the start. I just started dating a man who is divorced and his kids don't know about it. The ex and him are keeping the kids in the dark, how long do I continue with dating when I'm kept a secret?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/10/2012

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Until it is serious and he is ready to tell his kids. Him not telling is not a personal insult to you, it is him protecting his kids. Just have fun.

Dove - posted on 08/10/2012

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His kids don't know he's divorced or his kids don't know he is dating? Are his kids actual KIDS... or adults? Personally, I wouldn't tell KIDS I was dating someone unless we were talking engagement already. They don't need to be involved in a relationship that is 'just started'.

If the kids don't even know he's divorced.... Yeah, run.... that sounds way too fishy and I think I'd ask to see a copy of the divorce decree asap.

Even if he is actually divorced.. THAT is something that the kids should know about it.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/10/2012

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Ask him when he's going to be honest. If he can't be honest with his kids about his life, then I'd be suspicious about what he tells you!

How do you KNOW that he's divorced? A good indicator of someone who is stringing you along is that they "don't want to tell the kids"...How in the bloody hell do you keep your kids "in the dark" about being divorced? Are they still sharing a house, expenses, and responsibilities?

If so, then, honey, he's not divorced, he's using you, and you're falling for it. You don't get divorced and "not tell your kids". It just doesn't work that way. Kids aren't stupid.

This, to me, has a very strong smell of skunk. If he's not going to be honest, and present you to his kids, you need to let him move on to his next "girlfriend"...because it's not a man you're going to want to continue to be in a relationship with. Without honesty, you don't even have a foundation.

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