I've NEVER had an orgasm..... any advice???

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Ken - posted on 01/14/2013

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this is true for a lot of woman ,, In my exsperience its mostly in the brain that stops us but not allways,, the brain is our biggest sex organ. so it all starts there then with help from people , doctors or friends partners we can all enjoy what sex can bring .

Terri - posted on 08/16/2012

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Pick up the book by Sadie Allison " Toygasms" very helpful. Relax and go with what feels good.

Terri

Lee-Ann - posted on 06/28/2009

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Get to know yourself like the ladies have said below, get comfortable with getting to know yourself, RELAX, learn how to switch your mind off and turn it on if you know what i mean. We are blessed creatures who can have clitoral, vaginal (G-spot) and combined orgasms. Study up on the female anatomy and if you haven't already get a mirror and have a damned old good look down there, know what you are working with. Having done all that and the suggestions below if you don't feel any sensations as a last resort you can get your hormone levels checked out by your GP (who may refer you to a sexual therapist if they don't do it). But i wouldn't go panicking about that. Have fun!

User - posted on 06/28/2009

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Have you tried different positions - some positions are easier for reaching orgasm than others - for example woman on top. You can then control the movement. Try telling your partner what you need. Experiment on your own to find out what sets you off and then duplicate that with your partner. If you fake you are just cheating yourself. Here's looking forward to your first!

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Hi there. Have you heard of Kegel exercises? "The benefits of these exercises are multiple. They improve a woman's body for (1) childbirth, (2) urinary control, (3) reduction of backaches, and (4) increased sexual enjoyment..." The Act of Marraige by Tim & Beverly LaHaye, Chapter9: The Key to Feminie Response. The chapter goes on to say that many women (In the Kegel survey) who had never achieved orgasm went on to achieve it within four to six weeks of practicing these exercises. I did it throughout my second pregnancy and afterwards and lovemaking has never been better. Hope this helps.

Carolyne - posted on 06/28/2009

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I agree with everyones post before me. They say most women don't have their first orgasm until they are well into their 20's. First of all relax. If you are trying to achieve with your partner, make sure to let him know what feels good. If you are trying to achieve by yourself.. I recommend the shower head or a vibrator. There are many toys available to either use by yourself or with your partner. I do naughty lady parties, if you ever need anything let me know! www.foryourpleasure.net/carolyne

Leigh - posted on 06/28/2009

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Well, you've got so much to look forward too!! How well do you know your body? How often to you mastabate? These are just the basics of how you can orgasm. Buy yourself a vibrator. You can go online, they're cheap, they come in plain packaging, you don't even have to leave your house. Yes I'm talking from experience lol. Discover yourself, for yourself. Once you know what gets you there, you will then have to work on communicating that to your partner, but you can't expect anyone else to make you feel great, if you can't even do that yourself. Like I said this is just the basics. To have a great sex life, heaps of other things need to be in place, your work load, your self esteam, your own happy talk.

Kenya - posted on 06/28/2009

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WOW.....YOU NEED SOME EXCITEMENT IN UR SEX LIFE TO MAKE THAT ORGASM COME...BUT FIRST THING FIRST YOU PARTNER HAS TO KNOW HOW TO PLEASE YOU....

Betty - posted on 06/28/2009

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You and your husband should study up on this together. Dose he know this is a problem or have you been fakeing all these years? Go to some love boutques. Sometimes they can inform you of workshops that you and your husband can go to. I never went to them but I'll admit that it took a few months to really get into sex. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Therapist maybe? I thought something was wrong with me for the first few weeks of marriage because I was a super vergin.

Victoria - posted on 06/28/2009

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learn about your body, what are your likes/dislikes? Experiment with yourself...once you're aware of what turns you on, you will be able to make yourself orgasm. Only once you're in touch with your own body will you be able to share this with your partner & educate him/her on what you like.

Jeanne - posted on 06/28/2009

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It's time for you and hubby to talk and experiment. A lot of foreplay can help as well as oral stimulation if your hubby is into that. Good luck.

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Elusive Orgasm: A Woman's Guide to why She Can't and how She Can Orgasm by Vivienne Cass Ph.D. is a pretty good book.



Shower heads and vibes are a good place to start if you're comfortable with that :)

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