Amanda - posted on 02/17/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My son will be 4 this summer. before i got pregnant my ex told me he wanted me to have his kids after i got pregnant he started to slowly leave me. it started with lies. he told me he was working out of town and only called me when he wanted some. i tried to make things work until i was six months pregnant and he didn't come to the hospital when i told him i was in there. which is the night i caught him in a lie he told me he was outta town which i knew he wasn't because i saw him. the only thing i ever asked he for was a car seat and stroller which was only 200.00. 3 days before i had my son i called my mom and said i still didn't have one and asked her if i gave her the money if she would go get it, she did. during the delivery things went wrong. my sons heart rate went all over the place and the sent me for a c section. my ex called me that day only because he was getting he's brother to watch my face book. it took 3 days of me bugging him to come see he's child for him to come see him. i didn't tell him that it was a boy or that he was in nicu.when he came he stayed for maybe 5 mins and when i asked him if he wanted to hold his son he refused until i was about to change my son.he held him for maybe 30 seconds. 2 days after we were realest from the hospital i was put back in for 3 days. for over 2 weeks the was no phone call or anything from his father. i tried to get him into our sons life but he wasn't interested. when my son was 3 months old i got his father to sit down for coffee and asked him for some support i ask for 300.00 he told me he couldn't afford that so we agreed on 100.00.i only waited a month for him to pay or even call. then i got a lawyer. 4 months later he got served then i got a call. then he wanted to see him. that summer he showed up at my door at 5am drunk telling me we had a good thing and he wanted me back. lol. court came and went i got full custody and almost 400.00 in child support and back pay all he go was supervised visits. we've been in and out of court for 2 years. that summer was when i found a great guy. he acts like he's my sons daddy and did since the day he came into our lives and his family is the same way. visits turned into unsupervised visits and things went bad he wasn't taking care of him and things went from bad to worse with him not taking care of my son. last year after i got pregnant with my husband to be things got worse my ex wasn't giving my son his meds and was taking him out with bringing his meds. then my son was showing signs of sexual assault. i stopped visit then 2 months later the signs stopped. my son now hasn't seen his father in almost a year which is fine by me as long as my son is safe and happy that's what makes me happy. my man still thinks as my sons dad even though now we have another boy. even when someone asks him if it's his son he always says yes. when they ask why he doesn't look like him he always says because i'm the only daddy that matters. my son and i have gotten really lucky having my man and his family in our lives, and my son loves them all. my son knows he has another dad but it doesn't phase him he just calls him his old dad. now this summer i'm getting married and i couldn't be happier. if you have a story with a happy ending share it. i never thought i would be having a happy ending.