i wanna hear people's stories like mine. that had and bad babies daddy then a great man came into their lifes

Amanda - posted on 02/17/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son will be 4 this summer. before i got pregnant my ex told me he wanted me to have his kids after i got pregnant he started to slowly leave me. it started with lies. he told me he was working out of town and only called me when he wanted some. i tried to make things work until i was six months pregnant and he didn't come to the hospital when i told him i was in there. which is the night i caught him in a lie he told me he was outta town which i knew he wasn't because i saw him. the only thing i ever asked he for was a car seat and stroller which was only 200.00. 3 days before i had my son i called my mom and said i still didn't have one and asked her if i gave her the money if she would go get it, she did. during the delivery things went wrong. my sons heart rate went all over the place and the sent me for a c section. my ex called me that day only because he was getting he's brother to watch my face book. it took 3 days of me bugging him to come see he's child for him to come see him. i didn't tell him that it was a boy or that he was in nicu.when he came he stayed for maybe 5 mins and when i asked him if he wanted to hold his son he refused until i was about to change my son.he held him for maybe 30 seconds. 2 days after we were realest from the hospital i was put back in for 3 days. for over 2 weeks the was no phone call or anything from his father. i tried to get him into our sons life but he wasn't interested. when my son was 3 months old i got his father to sit down for coffee and asked him for some support i ask for 300.00 he told me he couldn't afford that so we agreed on 100.00.i only waited a month for him to pay or even call. then i got a lawyer. 4 months later he got served then i got a call. then he wanted to see him. that summer he showed up at my door at 5am drunk telling me we had a good thing and he wanted me back. lol. court came and went i got full custody and almost 400.00 in child support and back pay all he go was supervised visits. we've been in and out of court for 2 years. that summer was when i found a great guy. he acts like he's my sons daddy and did since the day he came into our lives and his family is the same way. visits turned into unsupervised visits and things went bad he wasn't taking care of him and things went from bad to worse with him not taking care of my son. last year after i got pregnant with my husband to be things got worse my ex wasn't giving my son his meds and was taking him out with bringing his meds. then my son was showing signs of sexual assault. i stopped visit then 2 months later the signs stopped. my son now hasn't seen his father in almost a year which is fine by me as long as my son is safe and happy that's what makes me happy. my man still thinks as my sons dad even though now we have another boy. even when someone asks him if it's his son he always says yes. when they ask why he doesn't look like him he always says because i'm the only daddy that matters. my son and i have gotten really lucky having my man and his family in our lives, and my son loves them all. my son knows he has another dad but it doesn't phase him he just calls him his old dad. now this summer i'm getting married and i couldn't be happier. if you have a story with a happy ending share it. i never thought i would be having a happy ending.

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Michelle - posted on 02/17/2012

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I have seen a lot of sad stories here. I wish there were more men out there who wanted to love rather than control.

I am happy that you and I were able to find someone special who cares as much as we do for our kids, I just hope other moms out there going through a hard time can find a happy ending too. =)

Amanda - posted on 02/17/2012

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wow it's so nice to hear someone else having a great ending to a shitty start. i never see any happy ending stories on here and i knew there had to be more men like the one i have and i wanna phases those men who make us whole again after so much hard ache.

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2012

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Your story sounds similar to my own. I got married at 18 to a guy i had met online. Few months later I was pregnant. We played house for almost a year, then 2 months after my son was born he cheated on me. I kept him around, thinking I was in love and it was the best for my baby. It wasn't. Few months later I got pregnant again. I knew another baby wouldn't work in our family. He didn't take care of us at all. But I couldn't go through with an abortion, and I am thankfull I didn't. I spent almost the whole pregnancy trying to keep up a marriage that was never going to work. Finally I had enough. When I told him we seperated for a week to figure our situation out. When the week was over he was ready for us to be over. Guess he enjoyed no children more than the family he had created. So I left and moved in with my parents, which is the house I brought my second son home to. After a lot of mommy and boy time I was starting to put myself back together again. I started the divorce and got a job. 6 months after having my 2nd baby we were moving into an apartment.

It gets better. A friend of mine then intorduced me to a guy friend of her's and it was magic. I knew right away that he was different. He wanted to be my friend, rather than a dictator. It was instant love, and not just for me but also for the boys. He told me later in our relationship that when our friend told him about my children he actually felt like it was a bonus. ♥ We got married almost a year later, our anniversery is coming up and we just had our 3rd boy, his first but he tells everyone 3rd. He is a good man, I would have never seen myself in the place I am now back when I thought I had hit rock bottom and my now ex was filling in my grave with his bs.

Happy endings do happen =)

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