Frances - posted on 03/20/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
I posted on here a while ago about my situation with my ex. We have been separated for a year and a half now. During that time, he started seeing someone, I had our daughter and raised our children and made a life for myself. I'm working in a great job and I'm studying and my children are happy loving wee things. I had finally gotten past the hurt from my marriage and now he wants to come back and try again. Part of me is thrilled for my children but there is another part of me that is is terrified. He says he has changed but all I can think of now is what has happened between us in the past. Him leaving me because I decided to keep my daughter (he said it was the baby or him so I left). He emotionally attacked me on a regular basis. He started seeing someone after 3 months of our marriage ending and until now he has shown no interest in his daughter (9 months old) he only ever wanted to be involved with his son (2 years old). For so long I have wanted him to come back to his family and I don't even know why anymore. He has booked his flight to come. What I want from the masses is advice from anyone that has been in a similar position, anyone with tips on how to make it work. I'm so scared at what could go wrong and how it all will affect my babies. Is it better to tell him not to come at all if I'm feeling this way?