I want to know how I can manage household chores and my kid.

Surabhi - posted on 04/23/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mom and I am pursuing my MBA also. My kid is 4 years old and she is very naughty and always makes me feel tired running behind her. I have in laws with me and I have to make them happy too. I sometimes feel very frustrated managing all this once at a time. Please suggest how I can make things run smoothly and give a lot of time to my kid.

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Jodi - posted on 04/24/2015

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A 4 year old should not be having "meltdowns". She should be learning to control herself.

I understand you have to manage all those things. I managed a household, 2 children, an at-home business and studying a post graduate degree, so I do understand the juggle. You may need to do your studying in the evening after your daughter is in bed, but your daughter needs to learn to stop the tantrums. How are you managing those at the moment? Do you give in?

What are your in-laws doing around the house?

Michelle - posted on 04/24/2015

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You need to control her tantrums. It's not acceptable for her to have a "meltdown" if you need her to do something she doesn't want to do. That's not going to help her when she gets to school as she will have to do a lot of things she doesn't want to do!
You are pandering to her moods and it's not helpful.

Surabhi - posted on 04/23/2015

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Thanks again Jodi for your helpful answers. But my kid is bit moody and she have a horrible meltdown problem if i forced her to do something.She help me whenever she is in the mood for help other than that she always do something that makes me go mad at her even though i don't want to. Plus i have to manage my study and household chores also. I am just so tired of it Jodi.

Jodi - posted on 04/23/2015

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Ah, that makes sense!!

How about try and involve her in some of your chores and reward her for helping? There are many things she could do to help you (give her a broom to sweep, or a cloth to wipe, in whichever room you are cleaning), and then maybe you could reward her with a trip to the park, or a movie, or something she would find really special.

Surabhi - posted on 04/23/2015

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Thanks for your kind advice Jodi.My kid is actually a preschooler but she is summer vacation now. that's why she is doing so much naughtiness in the home.

Jodi - posted on 04/23/2015

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It isn't your job to make your in-laws happy. I am assuming they are perfectly capable adults. They can look after themselves.

With regard to your 4 year old, is she in some form of preschool? If not, it may be time. It could be that her behaviour is linked to boredom. Both of my kids showed boredom at this age, and every moment I was not entertaining them, they were bored. Pre-school made a huge difference to their behaviour at home, simply because they had new and different stimulation in their life. Preschool would also mean you could use that time to get the things done you need to get done so that when she IS home, you can spend quality time with her.

Michelle - posted on 04/23/2015

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You need to realize that you aren't superwoman, no one is!
If your in laws are staying with you then they should also help out. Your in laws can look after themselves, you don't need to make them happy. Everyone helps make the mess so everyone can help clean it up.
The best advice I can give is don't try and do everything all at once. Do 1 room/chore at a time. That way you won't be too overwhelmed. Make a list of things that need to be done and prioritize it. You don't need to be mopping the floors everyday.

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