I want to know why do I see walking, talking children out in public who are putting the pasifier to the side to talk or taking the bottle out of the mouth to communicate?

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Because their parents are lazy and haven't taken the pacifier away. Or, as I tell my kids when they ask that same question, it is because that child is still a baby and hasn't learned or been taught how to be a big kid yet.

Debbie - posted on 01/24/2011

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i agree with rebecca parents are too lazy to put there foot down. it makes me sick

Kylie - posted on 01/29/2009

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I think a lot lies with the parents. Sure dummies can be helpful in soothing a distressed child, as well as bottles being a comfort thing. But i think the thing to remeber is that there could be more to the story then you think. Personally, i dont believe in kids having dummies or bottles after a certain age, but this differs with every child and every parent. Though some parents do need to put the foot down. So maybe just take some time to consider the other parents situation first. And as for the stroller comment, remember how little their legs are and sometimes peopl dont have cars to take them everywhere.

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My son is 25 months, not very well & having really bad tantrums, Im not coping well with this so his "Toot" as we call it is used.  Before becoming a mum I would have been ot the opinion that KIds should not have a soother BUT being in the real world & am so glad it works for me.

Bobbi - posted on 01/28/2009

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I don't think children old enough to communicate should have these things either but why are you making multiple posts like this and judging other parents? This is supposed to be a healthy nurturing community where we can get support and advice from other mom's not a who's the best mom contest. We all have different parenting styles/ tactics/ beliefs... I have seen it time after time in different conversations on here and that should be respected- and I would hope that very few women actually TRY to be bad mothers

Gretchen - posted on 01/28/2009

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you would think a celebrity wouldn't have to worry about shutting the kids up they just hand them off to the nanny. at 13 isn't it money and "stuff" parents shove at their kids to make them shut up?

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2009

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OMG I think that once the child is a year old the binkie and bottle go.  I find it quite ridiulous when parents shove a binkie in a three year olds mouth because he/she is crying. Learn how to deal with your children the right way or it will never get any better.  You cant give them a binkie when they are 13 and talking back to you...



I see a lot of celebrity children with binkies and bottles i.e. Suri Cruise

Rebecca - posted on 01/28/2009

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My daughter has her soothers yes but that is different then a paci or bottle after age one or 2..... My daughter got rid of both my 18 months and was sleeping in a big girl bed by then as well.... As far as her soothers go one stays in the bed because it is her special blanket made by mom and the other is her "pop" it is one of those bunny with the lil blanket attached to it.... The silky edge comforts her.... She is allowed to have that as a comfort thing right now cuz she is going through some big changes in her life.... Going from being home all the time with mommy or daddy to being in a daycare all day and not seeing daddy except to say goodbye and on weekend....

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Because anything short of hard drugs that gives a child a little security in this world just ain't so bad. (and, no, my kids don't suck their thumbs or have pacifiers).

Gretchen - posted on 01/28/2009

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also how many times have you seen a small child spitting the pacifier out (because they seem not to want it)and the parent repeatedly sticking it back in. or it being used as a shup-up plug every time the child makes the slightest noise.

Jenna - posted on 01/28/2009

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if they need a bottle or dum 2 sleep k but that should be all by 2 they dont need one and it is not that hard to take it from them once they wake up some parents r just lazy and it is bad for the child as for the stroller some dont have cars and walk alot for a young child

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A girl at my sons music class still had a pacifier at 4 and I thought that it was horrible. When my kids turned one I threw them in the bin straight up. And they came off a bottle by then too. The other thing I hate seeing is kids who are old enough to walk, around 4 or 5, sitting in a stroller.

Alejandra - posted on 01/28/2009

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I agree with Rebecca.  My niece is turning 4 in August and she still carries it around.  I think it's a bad idea but I keep it to myself.  My brother and sis-in-law are her parents, not me.

Sara - posted on 01/28/2009

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My son dropped both habbits around the age of 2... At that point he was only having the bottle and soother at bedtime, not during the day. Some kids just need it longer than others but there does have to be a point where the parent takes the step in removing the comfort object.

Rebecca - posted on 01/28/2009

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In my opinion if they need to push it a side to talk they are old enough to be without.... There are dental and speech issues from prolonged use of these items.... If there are truely social/emotional issues then there needs to be other ways to take care of them... Most of which are stemmed from their parents..... If there are physical needs for the use maybe a doctor needs to be involed..... But I have seen school age children walking around with a pacifier in their mouth....

Vicki - posted on 01/28/2009

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Maybe because some children use their dummies or bottles as a safety blanket and have anxiety problems without them. Or maybe they had bad reflux as babies and used dummies to help their pain. Or maybe they have sleeping problems and their parents are waiting to get some sleep before taking a step they know will be difficult for both the child and themselves. There are lots of reasons. I'm sure their parents are doing the best they can...perhaps not best to judge.

Rebecca - posted on 01/28/2009

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Because some parents are too lazy or soft to take the damned things away......

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