Nicole - posted on 06/12/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )
This is a lot of rambling sorry. I have been with my bf for about 3 1/2 years. He has a 14 yr high functioning autistic son with his ex that lives with us full time. His mother is an addict and has not seen him in 2 years. I am close to the 14 yr. he is a great kid. Then we have our son who is 2. I work full time and my bf stays home with our two year old. He does not work. His mom helps pay for food and stuff. Which I am grateful for.
Our relationship did not start off very smooth. If I would have paid more attention to the red flags I wouldnt be in the situation. He is not easy to talk to. Every time I want to talk to him about anything he takes over the conversation. One of are regular arguments is that I don't make enough dinners. Now I work full time and he stays home with our two yr old. I know taking care of a toddler is a handful and it tricky when you have to get things done. But if I was the one home the house would be somewhat clean and dinner made. Another thing is that he doesn't go to bed until 2:00am cause he stays up playing games on his phone and watching tv. Then gets up with the 2 yr around 9:30. From the time I get home from work I take over. I make dinner. Clean up. Give the bath. Get ready for the next day. Then Me and baby go to bed. He has like 5 hours of free time to him self every night. He could make a meal for the next day. He always make excuse that he can't cook. It's bs. If you can read you can cook. You follow a recipe. I'm just fusterated. He is controlling and sometimes treats me like I m kid. The reason I'm with him is because of the kids. I don't want to be with out my son.
My question is. If I break up with br and we split 50/50 custody of our son will is cause problems for him with all the back and forth. I get scared. Cause he's so young. I don't want to cause him problems. Also he's 2 and does not really say words yet. He makes some animal sounds and talks baby talk. Ands says yeah. That's it.
I'm afraid if I change a bunch of things it will delay him more. But am so unhappy with his dad. Don't know what to do.