I want to scream!! **Vulgar Language**

Audrey - posted on 07/21/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am almost 10 weeks pregnant, thought I was a bit further along but according to the ultrasound I'm not. Any-who.

Ever since the first day finding out that I'm pregnant my ex and I have been fighting HORRIBLY! There comes times when everything seems fine, we laugh, joke and plan our future as parents. Then he has a fit and everything changes.

He was PRO abortion, I am not. In return this initiated our first big fight, which ended up in physical confrontation. Cops called, ect. Since then we have been fine for the most part. Our newest problem is his jealously and I'm starting to think he has bi-polar disorder.

We are NO LONGER together, I'm not out dating or screwing other guys. That would just be wrong, I'm pregnant for Gods sake. But I went out shopping with a much younger friend of mine, he's male. I did not offer this information up to the Ex and he flipped out. Claims I'm "fucking around" and being a "nasty whore, slut, bitch" I let that go. And tried to move past it.

Tonight we got into a huge argument about him calling me a whore. He claims the child is NOT his, yet he is going to take me to court and have me rights revoked as a mother and take the child away from me. What I don't understand is, if it's not your child what right do you have trying to do anything? For one, he cannot prove that I'm an unfit mother, I'm not raising a child yet. I'm not working until August, I'm in college and I'm doing everything right prenatal wise. How am I unfit? Seeing as how I'm 20 and "poor" and he's 25 and comes from money he thinks that he has the right to degrade me and threaten me.

The conversation tonight consisted of these such things.
"Listen here you stupid whore, I've been fucking around on you. Have been. I never loved you. Never cared. The child is NOT mine. You have a horrible track record (which he would know nothing about) and you've fucked around which means it's not mine. (I never slept with anyone during our relationship) I'm taking the child away from you, you po'dunk trailer trash whore. (I'm a middle class civilian who lives in a 5 bedroom home in a pretty decent area) Goes on to tell me how I cannot keep things out of my mouth, that I'll never see my child, and If I was pregnant I would regret ever speaking to him the way I do. I can't even cry anymore. I've grown numb to his words to an extent. I just want to scream though! I want to haul off and punch him in the throat. What the hell do I do?!?! How do I handle this emotional distress. I'd block his number but he contacts me from other numbers when I do that. I'm stuck!!

After all is said and done he claims he is going to kill himself, that I'm the only one he loves and wants to be with. That he never slept with anyone else, ect. How he is jealous of me. Because I'm kind hearted, beautiful, beyond intelligent, ect. And he knows I can do better. I mean seriously, is this not bi-polar behavior? Am I completely in the wrong for not wanting him around anymore? I do love him, I do care, but I'm tired of the heartache and dispair.. Am I wrong?

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Audrey - posted on 07/21/2012

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Thank you! This has put my mind at ease just a bit. I screen shot everything he posted on my FB, I have texts of him saying he wants to kill himself. He won't threaten me via text but that doesn't much matter. I have texts telling him to stop contacting me and he continues to do so. I am buying a tape recorder that hooks up to my cell phone and I will be recording any hostile calls. I tried phone apps for it, but they don't work. I appreciate the support, guys!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/21/2012

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Don't listen to him about the money thing. Courts don't take away children cause one parent has more money, they look at who is going to be more fit. Also, they will not take away an infant unless you are doing something REALLY wrong. Especially if you are breastfeeding.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/21/2012

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Getting all his bad mouthing you on text or email is a fantastic idea. You will have proof for the judge that HE is the unfit parent.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/21/2012

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Geesh, what a gem. I would stop all communication with him. If you need to, file for a restraining order. Stop making plans with him about the baby, and look into getting a lawyer. Set up a paternity test, and have his ass pay child support. Make sure you are the parent with sole custody. It may be early, but I would talk to a lawyer sooner than later about your concerns.

Corinne - posted on 07/21/2012

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I would keep a note of all phone calls, texts etc. Times, numbers he's called from, what was said....then take it all to the police. Do not let this man control what you do or how you live your life and don't listen to his b@ll about him having more rights because he's rich - what a load of crap! Nobody will take a baby from it's mother unless there is clear neglect or abuse.

Jodi - posted on 07/21/2012

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Stop engaging with him. If he calls, hang up. Either that, or don't answer your phone - let it go to message before you answer it (screen your calls). Make it clear to him that in future all communication can be through text message or email, that's it. If he continues to harass, get a restraining order. Make notes of all his contact, and the things he says. He has no right to treat you like this. It is highly abusive.

Louise - posted on 07/21/2012

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Let him text you these threats. Then go to court and have a restraining order brought against him. He has no chance of taking your child, a court will not remove a baby from its mother because the fathers family has money. He would have to show neglect or endangerment of the baby and as you are not a drug addict, alcoholic or prostitute he has NO chance at all. He is clutching at straws. When the baby is born take his arse to court for maintenance! You are owed this money and will need this to raise your baby. Also asked for supervised visitations as you think he is mentally unstable. You are in control here, no money is going to help him! Stay calm do not fight with him, refer him to a lawyer and keep all evidence of verbal abuse to help your case should it come to court.

Audrey - posted on 07/21/2012

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I have given him ample times to try and make things better, but you're both right, he needs to go. I just don't know if he can have my rights revoked as a parent because he is RICH and I am not. I have wic, I have medicaid, he said that the government will grant him rights before they continue to help me financially. So I comply with what he says...

Zena - posted on 07/21/2012

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You need to remove him out of your life at least until the baby is born. You don't need the stress!

Stifler's - posted on 07/21/2012

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No. Tell him to go fuck himself until he can sort his shit out, you do not need this.

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