I would like some help please. It's a long story hope you don't mind!! i was with me partner for 6 years and ended up spiting up (which is something we both wished never happened) after almost a year we got back together and are now happily living as a family again but in the time we had split up i meet someone else and fell pregnant., me and the baby dad split up because he beat me up and when i went to the police for out he was a dangers man i had to move house and take my oldest child out of her school and so on. I ended up having my baby 12 weeks early, she put up a big fight and his with us today, me and my partner got back together about month before i had my daughter and was there at her birth and has brort her up as his own. My daughters real dad is not on her birth cetifect and has also has taken me to court to try and see her while in court i found out he has robbed a 15 year old a knife point and spent 18 months in prison and also (while we where going throw court so count even keep out of trouble while trying to see his daughter) had hit a 12 with a dog led (i don;t no what happened to that) the judge told him he could control his temper and keeps getting in trouble with the police, i also got told he has a split personalty and he has 2 other children he not aloud to see. Her dad spoke to his soliter who then contacted mine to say that her dad will stop trying for contact if i agree to send him a photo of her and a updated letter with the photo twice a year. What i would like to no is what right now has my partner have to adopt my daughter as he loves her and wants her to have the same name as are other kids. we not married but would like to in time but with 5 kids don't have the spare cash to save up are children are 9,5,3,2,1, so not a cheap time with kids if there is a cheap time lol. thank you and i am sorry for the bad spelling. x
Bobbie - posted on 10/31/2012
oops, just realized you and he are the parents of the other four. What threw me I guess is that you split, "fell pregnant" and got back together in just a few months? If your last child together is just two years old and the baby you are talking about is now a year old and you were back with your partner before she was born, I would say that was a very fast split, pregnant, make up again.
Sorry :( I can't help but say, "what were you thinking and where were your 8,4,3,and 1 year old while you were sleeping with a new boyfriend? And how in the world did you not know how to keep from getting pregnant?
Geez, if you don't have the money to go to the courthouse and make it legal you are still delusional about what a marriage is about. It isn't the wedding, or the party afterward or the fancy ring and gifts. It is making right the backward cycle you set to the pattern in your life. Giving up the wedding dress, party and the celebration, WHICH by the way is STILL a waste of money when ever you finally get around to it because you have FIVE KIDS! WTF!
Bobbie - posted on 10/31/2012
Yeah, so glad you added the sorry about the bad spelling. LOL doesn't your pc or phone have spell check?
I am surprised that you have 5 kids! wow, that is a lot for anyone.
I am confused that he isn't named on the birth certificate but still has fought to see her in court. This must mean that you took a paternity test at his request by a private lawyer? Since I doubt a guy like that would pay for such a lawyer this must mean that you named him as the father for child support payments? Either that or you are on assistance? Somehow the system got involved giving him a voice in the court of law free of charge.
Sorry but I can't see how your boyfriend can have the children given his last name. Seems sensly too given that he doesn't even want to get married and change your name to his! That would be the most common sense why to approach this. Also, if he adopts them he is responsible for their care and support. Any assistance you are getting would be re-evaluated based on his income and the other fathers would be completely let off the hook for any money or support for the rest of the time your children require support.
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