If I wait until 9th grade to get my daughter an iphone is that to old? She already has a slide phone.

Jenna - posted on 03/31/2015 ( 36 moms have responded )

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All my daughters friends have smartphones but I don't think kids need smartphones at her age.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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Friggin hilarious how cool factor is the main choice for why parents are willing to spend an atrocious amount of money on an electronic device that will be 'out of date' in less than a year...LMAO.

What's more important? Teaching your kid to 'keep up' with trends, or teaching them lessons of value such as "don't follow the crowd", be an individual, stand up for yourself.

Whatever. Each to their own.

Raye - posted on 04/01/2015

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She doesn't need an iphone. With any child that has a phone, you should let her know that you will monitor her activities with random checks of her texts, apps and other use. You need to protect her and yourself from her behaving inappropriately on the phone. If you haven't already checked the phone she has now, you should do so. If the phone has a camera, any risqué or nude pics she may be sending to/receiving from her friends would be child porn, and could get YOU, the parent, arrested. This is a scary time for kids and their phones. You don't know who they're communicating with, and child predators could more easily make their way into your daughter's life.

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Ev - posted on 04/01/2015

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Hey all, I have to agree that a child does not need to have the latest gadgets to get done what they need to. At the age of 14 and even older, having an iPhone is more a status symbol than a need. Neither of my kids wanted a phone at this age and through high school. I got my daughter one when she came home one summer from college so she would have a way to get in touch with me or others on her calling list. She was 19. I paid for it but she was working and doing house work for me so it was a good trade. My son got his first phone last year and it was a flip phone that is prepaid. He gets what is affordable and that is it for the month and he is learning to make it last him. He rarely calls anyone or texts either. I pay for his time right now. He is 18 but he also does things around the house for me and does not toss a fit about it. He keeps up with school well too. But he would rather not mess with a phone but he knows he needs one to have for work and school next year after graduation. He wanted to upgrade to a smart phone but I told him when he got a job he could have one because I was not paying for one myself.

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I can send you my 5yo Shawnn, she's a very strong willed girl and keeps me on my toes!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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Been beautiful here! You all make me slightly jealous, you still have LOs at home...mine are other end...I got visited by some of my 'honorary' grandkids today, though so made my day!

Chana - posted on 04/01/2015

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NOT MY CIRCUS! NOT MY MONKEY! I had a great day with my girls today and I refuse to do battle with Satan because God is in my corner.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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Enough of your bullshit, troll. Jenna: Ignore it. Chana: Don't engage.

Raye - posted on 04/01/2015

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I moved from flip phone to iPhone about 6 years ago. It's nice sometimes, but you do kind of get addicted to all the games and crap that just wastes time and I hate it sometimes. I never used to text, now that's 90% of my communication. I do leave it off during dinner and LOVE when we go on vacation where there's nearly no service. My husband is more addicted to his smartphone than I am. So, I have to remind him sometimes to put . the . phone . down.

Chana - posted on 04/01/2015

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No iPhone here either just the basic prepaid phone that I have had for about 7 years now. It works for what I need it for and that is all that matters. My hubby had a fit a few months back when he had to get a new phone because his just completely quit working and went black.
Dove has a point kids today are just "tuned into technology". My youngest, who is 4, wanted to play on the computer so I put a few shortcuts on the screen before I knew it she was maneuvering through Disney, Nick Jr. and PBS like it was nothing. It took her about 20 minutes to figure out her LeapPad at Christmas and I am still finding things that it can do and when I ask her if she knew she looks at me like I am dumb and says "yes mamma". It's bad when I 4 year old makes you feel like an idiot!

Dove - posted on 04/01/2015

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I bought a small Kindle Fire to give to the family in June as a 'graduation' present... and I'm not even going to bother taking it out of its packaging... I'm just going to hand it over to the girls and tell them to figure out everything I need to know. lol

It was the same way when I bought them cheap mp3 players a couple of years ago... it took me 2 days to figure out how to successfully get music on them, but w/in 5 minutes of owning it my one girl figured out they can listen to the radio on it too. lol

Anyone that thinks a child NEEDS to own these devices at a young age in order to 'keep up w/ technology'... is bonkers. Our kids are just tuned in w/ this stuff and can figure out everything they need to know from school or checking out their friends stuff. ;)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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No Iphone here either...although for our home business, I will be upgrading to a very low level smartphone, just for a couple of business apps that will be beneficial.

However, I'd like to point out that I'm doing it under duress, as the learning curve scares the crap outta me! LOL

Dove - posted on 04/01/2015

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True Chana... when my girls were little I used to say they wouldn't have any reason for a phone until they were old enough to be driving and paying for it themselves... you never know what circumstances will happen in the future. It still stands that NO child needs an iPhone. Heck, I'm 38 years old and have never and will never own an iPhone. 'I' have no reason for one either. ;)

Dove - posted on 04/01/2015

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lol My girls won't be 'embarrassed' in high school to have a flip phone... even if some of their friends have had an iPhone since 10 years old... they have better quality friends than that and anyone that WOULD 'make fun of them' for not having the latest and the greatest... are the kinds of kids my girls wouldn't want anything to do w/ anyway. I don't parent by what is popular... never have, never will. I parent by what me and my kids NEED and what 'I' want them to have (which is sometimes what they want... and sometimes not). They haven't been scarred for life yet. ;)

They communicate w/ their friends just fine w/ their $15 Walmart phone. One of their best friends doesn't even have a phone of her own... but they communicate just fine w/ her through her mom or dad's phone.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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I just really find it funny that parents will assume that 'kids will be made fun of'...both of my kids went thru HS...one only carried the barest minimum phone he could get away with. Didn't WANT a phone to begin with, and I forced one on him when I realized that things like payphones were nonexistent in the world as we know it, and he was out and about town doing a lot of volunteer work. I asked if he wanted a 'better' one, and he just looked at me like I was stupid...said "If you didn't force me to carry this one, I wouldn't bother". Funny, not one student out of the 1200 in his school building made any comments to him.

My youngest, the most social butterfly I've ever known carries the base model smart phone we could buy with the basic prepaid plan. Again, he never gets a bit of taunting.

Raye - posted on 04/01/2015

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I don't think the trendy phone is necessary, or any phone that does more than allow a few pre-programmed numbers to be dialed is necessary. But if you get one for your child, the parents should still monitor their phone usage, who they're talking to, what kind of pics/texts they're sending, etc. They need to be responsible and not get themselves or the parents in trouble.

Chana - posted on 04/01/2015

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I still agree with Shawnn but in the end it is up to the parent to decide at what age a phone is needed and how much they are willing to spend on it. Personally I don't think I will spend money just to keep up with a trend and unless it is situation like Dove's where the phone is needed I don't think my girls will have a phone until at least 13. Now that is a ways off so things good very well change by then!

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I have a daughter who's a freshman and she has an iphone 5s with no complains. She uses her phone daily and I think the main reason is for communication and it's important for a child to have a device to communicate. There are even younger kids who own an iphone 6/plus and I think it's more of a popularity issue. They want the latest products to be "cool". I think that high school is the right age for your child to own an iphone but you must consider if your daughter is responsible enough to take care of one. Only a rare majority of students in high school don't own a smart phone and if your daughter has a flip phone in high school, she'll feel embarrassed because her phone isn't up to date with the trend.

Raye - posted on 04/01/2015

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Chana and Dove, I flagged a few of her posts today, so I think the mods are on the ball today getting them removed.

Chana - posted on 04/01/2015

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lol As annoying and evil as she is it is a little boring without her. Did we get rid of her for good or is she just annoying someone else right now?

Dove - posted on 04/01/2015

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Yeah, but you said NO child. lol Sorry... I'm a tad bored w/out our troll. lol

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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Silly Dove... You know that it's dependent upon circumstances! ;-)

Dove - posted on 04/01/2015

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Not so, Shawnn (about no child under 13 needing a cell phone)... as a single mom of 3 I NEEDED my girls to have a cell phone when they went to middle school cuz it was 20 minutes away from their brother's school and I can't physically be in 2 places at once. ;) There were days of his soccer practice that they had to walk from their school to their gym because the timing any other way was impossible.

Chana - posted on 04/01/2015

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Just had the conversation with my hubby about what age kids need cell phones. His answer was never but we agreed that they have to be at least 13 preferably older. We have awhile before we get to this point but there was something on the news the brought up the conversation. If you think she needs a phone go simple, cheap and one you can program for emergencies only that is my thoughts.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2015

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No child NEEDS smartphone. No child under the age of 13 needs a cell either.

Jodi - posted on 03/31/2015

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I didn't let my son have a smartphone until he could pay for it himself - he was 15 when he got his first job, so he was 15 when he got one. They really don't need them. In fact, they are better off without them - younger teens really don't use them appropriately.

Dove - posted on 03/31/2015

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My oldest is 13 and will be in 9th grade next year... she will not be getting a smartphone until she is paying for it herself. She has had a basic cellphone since 10.5 years old and a basic talk and unlimited text plan that I pay for... anything more will not be on my dime. Period.

IF you WANT to get your child a smartphone that is your call, but no child needs one... so there is nothing wrong w/ never getting it for her.

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