If my fiance is not the father but He's the one supporting me and my son

Kelsey Marie - posted on 08/21/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have not had my son yet , i have 3 more months to go. My fiance is not the father of the baby but he supports me and is going to support the baby. He's already getting ready for him to be here. We live in Florida and the biological father lives 7 hours away in Georgia. The biological father does not have a job or any kind of income coming in, He does drugs and he is constantly threatening me because i do not want him a part of my sons life. Does he have to be recognized as the father if i am married to my fiance before the baby gets here? Also the biological father doesn't have a license or a car and wouldn't have a way to come see my son and he has no money to provide for my son. Is it worth the fighting?


Jodi - posted on 08/21/2013




So basically, you are asking if you have the right to cut the child's biological father out of its life? The answer is no. Firstly, biological parents have the right to a relationship with their child. You don't have to like it. He can take you to court for visitation if he chooses, just as you can take him to court for child support. Secondly, and most importantly, your child has the right to a relationship with his father. You do not have the right to make that choice for your child. One day, your child WILL find out who his biological father is, and he WILL find out that YOU are the one who denied that relationship. That will not go well.

Marrying your fiance will make no difference. But you have no right to pas your fiance off as your child's father.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/21/2013




Yes, he's got every right to fight for his kid.

That's the short answer. YOur solution should be to get paternity established, and a court ordered visitation schedule and support set up.

Remember, support does not control visitation.

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