if my partner doesnt return his daughter to her mother what could happen?

Dawn - posted on 05/06/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my partner has a 4 yr old daughter , but her mother is more intrested in her social life drinking , and passes their daughter from 1 person to another when suits her , this weekend was ment to be her mothers weekend as we had her last weekend but her mother wanted to go out drinking so dropped her daughter on the platform at a train station so her dad meet her , but what has made this situation worse was mum got off the train handed over her daughter and jumped back on the train so she wouldnt miss the train to continue her journey to bristol to continue drinking , with her friends , th mother spent less then 1 min on the platform , all this arrangement was done via short text msg 1 hr b4 and a 50s phone call, my partner wants to keep hold of his daughter, as his x doesnt care about the daughter only herself but im afraid it could do more damage than gd . his name is on the birth cert and they were married after the birth , help what should we do any advice would be a help

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Michelle - posted on 05/06/2012

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If there is not a court order than your SO has every right to keep his daughter especially if he does not feel she is being cared for properly. He needs to find a lawyer and file the right papers to get full custody./

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Michelle - posted on 05/08/2012

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Document everything. Start writing down dates and times and getting photos and what ever else you have that shows she is not putting her child first. You need to get a court order of some sort of visitation or custody arrangment. Try asking the mother first what she wants for an agreed custody arrangment. Make sure to put in there the right of first refusal. This means that if she can't take care of her that you get the right to take her before she gives her to a babysitter or other family members. Get a court order in place and continue to document everything. Go to a lawyer and ask them if you can get an emergency custody order in place because the child is at risk for neglect by her mother.

YOU Need to talk to a lawyer and quickly.

Dawn - posted on 05/07/2012

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thanks guys there r no court orders in place , we r hanging on to her at least until tomoorow and seeing his solicestor and s.s. so just waiting for the fireworks from her mum , as keeping getting texts when r we returning her to her mum

Keva - posted on 05/06/2012

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It sounds like it may be in the child's interest for you and your husband to seek full custody! I would allow the mother to participate whenever necessary, but that child needs to be shown love and made top priority! You need to make sure you are up for raising someone child before you do this because you don't want to make that child feel your burden either.

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