if u have had a kid would u do it the same way ? im debating c section or natural

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Kristi - posted on 01/17/2010

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My first was natural, no epidural or anything. It's really not that bad. #2 was a c-section because he was breech (and almost as big as my first), so I had a c-section with #3 as well (another big one!). If I was going to have another, I'd go c-section all the way. I was on my feet within 2 days, without any of the discomfort of having delivered vaginally.

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Momof1 - posted on 05/18/2011

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I have one child now and I had him naturally with no drugs. I hope to do it the exact same way... hopefully with shorter labor, though and not to have to be in the hospital as long. Because my water broke, I had to go to the hospital right away. I was in labor 12 hours and 55 minutes, which did not seem long at the time and pushed for 38 minutes. So hopefully the second will be the same, but less time. I would never opt for a c section. Major surgery for nothing, why would you? I don't even want an epidural. I'm not to keen on feeling numb and epidurals don't even work correctly on everybody.



Oh and I was allowed to eat while at the hospital, which was great! Because I was hungry. And because I didn't have an epidural or an IV, I was allowed to eat.

Dmaxwell0008 - posted on 01/17/2010

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i had an emergency c section, so the next baby i plan to deliver vaginally if possible. i just want the option to choose.

Ashley - posted on 01/17/2010

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I am freaked out about c-sections. I dont like the idea of being cut open. My first son was natural and I honestly didnt think it was that bad. I hardly felt any pain after the drugs. Than my 2nd son was also natural and after the drugs, I still felt so much pain because something came undone and so the drugs werent working at first. I guess it all depends but I would prefer all my kids in the future be born natural.

Karen - posted on 01/17/2010

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I have had 2 c sections and couldn't fault any of them i was up on my feet the next day and i felt great my last child i went into theatre at 2pm and i had my daughter by 2.08pm and i was stiched up and back in a room by 2.30. i was in hospital for 2 half days.

Sandy - posted on 01/17/2010

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I had an emergency c-section with my first and a VBAC with my second. There was absolutely no comparison - the vaginal delivery was SO much better. There was literelly no recovery time with my second. As the other posters have mentioned, a c-section is major abdominal surgery, and, as such, has a much longer recovery time, not to mention the greater risks involved. You don't realize how much you use your abs until you've had abdominal surgery. Getting up out of a chair when your baby cries is torture; bending to pick up your baby is a nightmare! I WOULD recommend a mid-wife for vaginal delivery (with a dr. on hand in case something goes wrong, of course!). I believe that a mid-wife will try harder not to cut you. Mine massaged and massaged and never had to cut. There was no tearing or episiotomy. Seriously - NO recovery whatsoever.

Andy - posted on 01/17/2010

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Well my Grandmother had six children and all naturally and told me that she would have chosen c-section! I had 2x c-sections, 1st was emergency, 2nd was elective...i would have liked the experience of natural childbirth if it was like my friend's which was one push and out!!!! Unfortunately we are all different shapes and sizes, we deal with fear of the unknown differently, we all have different pain thresh holds and we can only tell you about our experiences for you to make your own decision.
But remember, that baby is coming out one way of another.....do not worry, you will be in good hands and it is a miniscule amount of time compared to a life time with your child, oih and thank goodness for drugs!!!!!

Karen - posted on 01/17/2010

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Why would you choose to have major surgery if there is another option?

To me a c-section is a last resort when either the baby or the mother is in serious trouble. If you are worried about the pain of a vaginal birth look into pain relief, there are lots or options

LaNeeka - posted on 01/17/2010

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If you have the option to give birth naturally, you should have your baby naturally. There can be a lot of problems with a c-section. And Doctors always prefer to have a natural birth if you can.

Marla - posted on 01/17/2010

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I totally understand the fear and I highly recommend hypnobirthing!!! It's basically like positive brainwashing. I was also really scared about birth but after going through the hypnobirthing course I had no fear going into my baby's birth. Fear is actually the culprit to why birth can be painful, the body tightens, contracts, and blood does not flow as well... without fear there is no pain. I know that sounds hard to believe but I exprienced this first hand, all you have to do is relax, your body and your baby know exactly what to do, just relax. I did not take any meds and the birth was fine. My baby came out alert and was able to feed from me right away. If there aren't any hypnobirthing classes in your area then you can purchase HypnoBirthing The Mongan Method by Marie F. Mongan, M.Ed., M.Hy. I also suggest avoiding all movies, tv shows, and/or stories that depict birth being painful, those all add to fear and don't have to be your experience. Watch the business of being born after your babies birth, just know there are many benefits to going natural. Also, the method only works if you beleive in it and practice, I loved preparing for my babies birth and hope you have a beautiful experience!

Danine - posted on 01/17/2010

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It seems unanimous! I've had both and the connection with your baby through natural child birth is so serial that if you have the chance definitely...natural. Good luck to you!!

Anne - posted on 01/17/2010

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Natural birth is best. There's a reason it's called "natural."

A C-section is major abdominal surgery and shouldn't be done unless absolutely necessary. People pretend like c-sections are no big deal and schedule them for convenience, but really, just like any major surgery, they subject you to many many more complications than a natural birth.

You should really watch this movie: http://www.thebusinessofbeingborn.com/

I had an all natural water birth and it was wonderful. Because the labor progressed at my body's natural pace, there were no rips or tears and my baby remained calm with a steady heart rate. When she was born she was alert, not drugged or sedated, and I could immediately hold her and experience the most incredible hormone high that nature has to offer. It was truly beautiful.

Every time I hear about a birth that was full of interventions or surgery, it makes me more and more glad that I chose to do it naturally.

Erin - posted on 01/16/2010

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Anna- it's like you are telling my story!! Except I got to hold my son at 2hrs. But I would like to have a natural birth next time.

Anna - posted on 01/16/2010

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I had a C-section with my daughter. It was perfectly fine. Not too painful, no labour etc. But I can't help feeling like I missed out on something really special. I did not get to hold my daughter for 12 hours until the spinal block had worn off and the morphine made me so sleepy and itchy. Also your milk does not come in as soon as it would if you were to have a natural delivery. This makes it a little harder iof you are planning on breast feeding.

Ashleigh - posted on 01/16/2010

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i had my little girl naturally with no pain relief whatsoever and i loved every minute, i know thats sounds sick but i wouldnt have had it any other way. im 4 and a half month pregnant now and intend to have another natural birth with no pain relief, hopefully things go to plan. i think natural is best definantly.xx

Erin - posted on 01/16/2010

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I had all 3 of my kiddos With A midwife in a birthing center. they were the most amazing experiences ever!
I think the ONLY thing I would change is i would have liked to have had a homebirth.

Michelle - posted on 01/16/2010

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Seriously like I said I've had both. The recovery sucks. I didn't have any infections or anything but it was not the best way to enjoy those first few weeks with your new baby. Lots of pain (even though it went really well). C- section is not a good first choice. I was worried about tearing and delivery pain and all sort too. Believe me vaginal is better.

Sherre - posted on 01/16/2010

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Arlene,
Our bodies are meant to have natural birth and it's been done for thousands of years. Just because the medical field has came up with another way to have a baby doesn't mean women should agree to do it, UNLESS necessary. Whether people had good expierences or bad expierences, why tell someone they should do it. Everyone is different but everyone's bodies are made to go natural, not to be cut open like some animal and have a baby gutted out of them. Sorry if that's graphic but I'm not going to sugar coat it. And if you've personally seen a c-sec, not had one, you'd know what I meant.
Please try to go natural if you can! Faster recovery time and faster bonding with your newborn.
Good luck!

Lakisha - posted on 01/16/2010

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I believe they would still lean more towards natural because even with no "complications" during the c-section the risks are still greater, the recovery time still longer, and it's still major surgery.

Arlene - posted on 01/16/2010

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wow! so no one? the reason why I'm shocked is because my best friend had a c section and she would not have done it any other way i wonder if its an age thing maybe when ur younger the choice do a c section can be a little more to do with not damaging anything or could it be because almost all women u read about that are in the media have c sections I'm 6 1/2 months pregnant and only weigh 120 the tearing actually scares me more than the actual c section. and what if u had no complications with your c section if it was just routine would women still lean more towards natural?.

Jennifer - posted on 01/16/2010

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I would NEVER choose a c-section. I had an emergency c-section with my first and almost died due to infection it took me 6 months to get rid of it. With the 2nd I was told it would be too risky to have her vaginally, by 2 different doctors, so I HAD to have another c-sections and it wasn't as bad, but still got an infection. This one was gone faster though. I still have pain in the area of the incisions. I agree with the earlier poster why would you ever choose to have major life threatening surgery, if there is another option!

Kara - posted on 01/16/2010

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I've had both, my first was a c-section my second a VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section). I would go for a natural birth in a second!!!! The recovery is much quicker for you, the baby is more alert (my second child I could nurse right away in the delivery room) my first child I was in so much pain I couldn't even hold him until the following day. If you can have a vaginal birth go for it!!!!!

Tara - posted on 01/16/2010

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If by natural you mean vaginal versus c-section I would say vaginal - recovery time is shorter. C-section is good if you need it in an emergency, but recovery time is longer and there are more possible complications for you. As far as your doctor is concerned any vaginal birth (with pain meds or without) is a natural birth, they only consider medically-assisted birth (c-section, forceps assisted or vacuum assisted) to be "non-natural". If you go with vaginal birth and need the pain meds, get them - better to be comfortable and relatively rested for pushing time than exhausted. If you can go through the full labour process without the pain meds, way to go. Both my girls were born vaginally, one with pain meds due to exhaustion, one without pain meds because the labour was too short to get them, but if my doc had said I needed a c-section for either of my girls to be safely born, I would have had the c-section.

Natasha - posted on 01/16/2010

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I had to have a c-section with my son, he was in a frank breech position. My next child will definitely be a VBAC. I have been to 2 natural deliveries and the atmosphere and excitement was so different to the clinical atmosphere of the c-section. My sister recovered within moments and was back to full health within days. I vomited for hours after my c-section due to the spinal block. I had to have a catheter and a drain in the wound, which was meant to be sewn in, but fell out on the toilet floor, before it was due out. I had disolvable stiches and staples (staples are horrible). I couldn't hold my son for 30 mins after he was born. I couldn't get up for his first nappy change and bath. I was in pain for weeks and had to specially manouver myself in & out of bed. I couldn't pick up my son, I had to ring for the nurses and my husband had to pick him up for me at night.

Dawn - posted on 01/16/2010

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what does your doctor say about it? I know if my doctor had to do my deliveries again he would do a c-section. but me personally I'm happy I delivered all 3 of my children naturally.

Margaret - posted on 01/16/2010

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Natural has always been the best and safest way. unless you have complications please go natural. With natural only a week and you are back to yourself and can do everything for your baby but C section will take more time and longer to recover. You can not do anything even bending.

Tatum - posted on 01/16/2010

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Why would anyone CHOOSE major life-threatening surgery with long recovery times?

Natalie - posted on 01/16/2010

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I've had three girls naturally, I think that if you have the opportunity to do it naturally you should. My first was pretty uncomfortable, but my next two were really easy.

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My first was an emergency C-section. I had 5 natural vbac deliveries with no meds at all after that and the last was also an emergency C-section because the baby turned at the last moment. I would do natural any day of the week over the section. The pain is manageable if you use the Lamaze and you don't stall out like sometimes happens with epidurals. You also have less chance of infection and your recovery is very fast. Focus is the key with natural and you are going to be nervous anyway because of the situation itself. :)

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I also had a natural with no medication or gas or anything. I survived the 12 hours and when I get pregnant in the future I plan to do it the same way. Recovery was easy, baby was very alert for birth (no drugs crossed the placenta). Was painful but wouldn't do it any other way (by choice of course).

Lakisha - posted on 01/16/2010

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I only have one child and after an inducement and emergency c-section where the epidural wouldn't take effect so i had to be put to sleep......i would definitely say go the natural route because that was a very scary experience and a very painful recovery for me.

Michelle - posted on 01/15/2010

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I've had both. Vaginal delivery is much better if you can. I had a c- section with the first and the recovery was painful. I had a vbac with the second and it was a much better experience from beginning to end.

Mary (mereana) - posted on 01/15/2010

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I have 4 children aged 13,12,7, & 9months, all naturally born. my first born i was in labour for 2days with hardly any rest, so they had to put me on the drip to have the energy to push wen he was ready to arrive, otherwise all my other children were born without any pain killers. its a wonderful experience natural birth, with the help of a family member to help you thru the process of breathing...

Debbie - posted on 01/15/2010

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I would definitely try natural. It scared the poop out of me, but I read a lot about it, practiced yoga everyday, only to have an emergency CS. It led to a 2 week hospital stay and another surgery, so I might be a little affected by the experience. Nonetheless, I wouldn't choose another CS just to minimize risks.

Toni Ray - posted on 01/15/2010

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I would have to agree! I had the natural birth with no meds at all for the last 7 hrs of labor and I would have to say I think with all the stress I went through I would much reather be at home. But I have a strep virus would they allow me to because they had me on an antibiotic all during my labor.

Tiffany - posted on 01/15/2010

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i have one daughter which i had by an emerg caesar. i was shit scared to have a baby naturally, but if you can do it, do it. a ceasarean can be quite traumatic, and it takes u a while to heal. and u have a much bigger risk of infection or catching a hospital borne disease such as MRSA or golden staff. really its up to you, but if i hadnt got pre eclampsia, i wish i could have had a natural birth.

Sherwood - posted on 01/15/2010

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I had a natural, unmedicated birth, if I have a second some day, I would do it the same. But I would have a homebirth with a midwife- I found the hospital setting to be undesirable for the task at hand.

Rebecca - posted on 01/15/2010

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I had a c-section then nautral. My recovery from my c-section was perfect no problems or pain, but i'd still go natural after doing it once even though i had tearing and stitches it was the most amazing experience

Caitlin - posted on 01/15/2010

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I was totally freaked out about having a child naturally, But I have to say for me it really wasn't bad at all. I think natural is the way to go. Recovery time is a lot shorter, but I would highly recommend an epidural (sure I didn't spell that right) It is the best thing ever. For me I never felt contractions just a lot of pressure and it was not bad at all.

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