If you found out you were pregnant with octuplets what would you do?

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Jodi - posted on 12/18/2011

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Identical twins don't run in families apparently. The splitting of an egg is random and by pure chance. Only fraternal twins run in the family.....

Melodie - posted on 12/19/2011

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My first instinct would be to keep all the babies. I do not believe in abortion. I would not want any baby to go through that pain. If it became a medical issue, I'm not sure what I would do. If saving one would harm the others significantly, I might consider aborting that one child. Above all, trust in God.

Johnny - posted on 12/16/2011

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Okay, so if I did by some shocking happenstance (and I didn't just die from the shock like Teresa) happen to conceive octuplets naturally, I would just closely follow the medical advice of my physicians. If I needed to abort to some to save others, I would. I would not put my life nor the lives of those that might live at greater risk. I do not believe in God, the only feelings and intentions that count are mine and my family's.

Johnny - posted on 12/16/2011

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I would probably reduce. Although, I have a hard time imagining what I would do, because I have a better chance of being kidnapped by the zombie alien's lightening bolt that drags behind the Hale Bop comet than I do conceiving octuplets. I would never undergo IVF or other such fertility treatments, it isn't the right choice for me, and since I'm not sure that octuplets have ever been naturally conceived by a human, I have a hard time thinking about it all that hard.

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"could die" "could be harmful" "could hurt mom" all "coulds" not definites. So killing a baby or several would be based on what could happen. I just don't understand. They are HUMANS. Human beings. They deserve a chance at life outside he womb. Place them for adoption with a loving family who has longed for a baby or two or eight!

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♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/26/2011

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Sarah the fact that this COULD happen is very big with a larger birth and there is a higher risk does scare women and they are ENTITLED to terminate pregnancies because abortions are legal in the US and Canada even if some people don't agree with them. I would never get one myself unless absolutely necessary, but I'm not going to sit here and tell other women that their choice is wrong

Nova - posted on 12/24/2011

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Notify my people/community and workout my options. After all, they will be my life support.

Merry - posted on 12/21/2011

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Pamela, women have spontaneously conceived up to 12 babies in one pregnancy. It's rare obviously but it does happen.

Pamela - posted on 12/20/2011

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Realize that I had taken a fertility drug or had been through invitro fertilization process, first, LOL!!! Then I would live up to the responsibility of my FREE WILL CHOICE and TCB. (Take care of business)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/19/2011

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They wouldn't need to worry, the news itself would kill me...

Merry - posted on 12/19/2011

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Sal ihave to agree, I couldn't pick and choose healthy babies to be reduced. Now if one had a deathly disorder or some abnormality that ment it would die already and........well, no. I could understand thinking about it but I really don't think even then I would be able to reduce anyone. I might choose not to deliver early to save one and endanger the rest. Meaning say baby a is not getting enough food so it would be best to deliver it but the rest are fine and growing well so delivering all would help one but endanger the rest. I'd continue and maybe loose baby a. Because that wouldbe natural selection. I guess doing nothing to save one feels easier then letting a dr inject something into a baby's heart to stop its life.

Anna - posted on 12/18/2011

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PRAY! LOL - what else IS there to do? ONLY if there looked like one or more was going to endanger the lives of the others would I terminate any of the fetuses. I know I would be suffering greatly when it got closer to time to give birth, but I would feel it my duty to try.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/18/2011

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Yeah that happens when you can't understand tone in the written word. Which is pretty much all the time on the internet. :)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/18/2011

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That's what I meant Jodi. But I was joking about my husband saying that it was because of him. I do know that Fraternal twins can be genetic and Identical twins are just something else.

But hey biology is always fun. Do we get to talk about dominant genes for why all the kids have the same nose or the same chin now? Because my chin is dominant and both my girls have it.

Jodi - posted on 12/18/2011

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Megan, fraternal twins are the result of the mother releasing two eggs, and it is the result of genetics, but identical twins is random, and has little to nothing to do with genetics, so they say. If it DOES have to do with genetics, they (whoever *they* is) have not discovered a genetic cause (eggs splitting AFTER fertilisation is nothing to do with genetics).

Anyway, I guess all that is off topic :P

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/18/2011

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My husband will probably believe that they run in Canadian families or insist they do.

I know how the twin stuff happens. If I was my mom's biological daughter there is a chance of me having twins because her mom was a fraternal twin, but her twin was still born

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Ditto Jodi. No one (at least last I researched it) knows exactly why identical twins happen. There might be a family coincidence in there somewhere, but apparently it hasn't been figured out. My girls aren't the only twins in the family, but they are the first of their generation. My mom's cousin has identical twins (my age) and there was one other set in an earlier generation, but that's it.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/18/2011

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Teresa, my husband would actually know that he had something to do with it (or believe he did) because he has identical twin cousins on his dad's side. We also have no idea what we're getting from my side except for a chin with a dimple. Both girls have that even with different fathers, but my 9 month old has her dad's nose and ears.

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Megan, my ex joked about that when WE had twins, but um... they're identical, so he had NOTHING to do w/ that. ;) lol

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/18/2011

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LOL same here Sal! He'd be patting himself on the back for days! Even if we just had twins or triplets he'd congratulate himself

Sal - posted on 12/18/2011

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My hubby would think it was from his super virile sperm too,
And even if it were natural it would be a freak pregnancy twins triplets even quads are a bit everyday octopuplets are very rare

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/18/2011

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Amanda can I mark your post as discouraging? Only because I can get pregnant with no issues already (ie DH sneezes funny during sex and boom baby!) and I don't know my family's medical history.



I asked my husband about this this morning though and he started clapping and saying whoo hoo!

Amanda - posted on 12/18/2011

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Thats crazy that it can happen naturally. Those are some super sperm and ovaries LOL.

Sal - posted on 12/18/2011

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I would probally go into shock and cark it!!!! I guess I'd just have to deal with all 8 or terminate the entire pregnancy. I just can't imagine choosing one over the other, unless there were medical problems with one/ some,
I won't ever use fertility so I would be a complete freak pregnancy so I guess I'll never face it...

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/17/2011

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I'd blame my husband of course. Then I'd contact Slice (a Canadian cable network) or TLC Canada :D



I don't believe I'd reduce because like Krista E I'm pro choice, but I can't imagine getting an abortion myself (unless necessary) so yes Sarah this is a legitamate question. However if my life or the babies' lives were in danger I would consider selective termination because my older daughter would go through a lot of needless heart ache if I died before she reached adulthood do to the fact that her father and I are divorced and he still has a stick up his ass about not getting his way. There'd be a lot of custody hearings all over again and I don't want my older child to have to go through that and resent her new siblings.



Laura, I don't know what runs in my family just my husband's and twins do run in his family because he has twin cousins.



I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. My husband would probably be thrilled though because he really wants a big family.

Johnny - posted on 12/17/2011

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Of course it is a question. In many cases, choosing not to reduce could also cause the deaths of some or all of the babies. Not to mention the mother. If your physician informs you that you could die, or that all of the babies could die if you did not selectively reduce, and you chose to continue, you could be committing suicide or intentionally allowing them all to be miscarried. This isn't an easy choice for people to make and insulting comments about "a litter of puppies" doesn't help.

Krista - posted on 12/17/2011

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Heh -- this is a timely post for me. We're TTC, and my Ob-Gyn brought up the idea of Clomid. But it DOES increase the odds of high-multiple births. She said that selective reduction is an option if that does happen.

I talked to my husband and we both agreed that no...it's not an option. Not for us. I'm pro-choice, but I just could not bring myself to terminate a pregnancy -- not unless my own life was in serious danger.

That being said, there's also no way in hell we'd be able to support 8 babies.

So I honestly don't know what I'd do. I really don't.

And needless to say, we decided against the Clomid.

Merry - posted on 12/17/2011

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Yup Amanda it has happened! The highest order spontaneous multiple pregnancy was 12 babies. None survived but still.

Amanda - posted on 12/17/2011

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My husband would be a dead man, but since octuplet dont happen naturally in humans (at least that i know of) I dont even have to worry about this question.

Lady Heather - posted on 12/17/2011

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I would reduce. Probably to 3. Maybe 4. Frankly, I don't even have the resources to deal with more than that and I don't have any desire to be a TLC special.

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I know I couldn't reduce since I couldn't even get a D&C when the baby was confirmed dead until the bleeding put my life at risk.... :( If I did reduce it would have to be down to only 2 since I know I couldn't physically carry 3. No way I could 'reduce' SIX babies....

I'll just sit here and be very glad I haven't had sex in almost 4 years. lol

Merry - posted on 12/17/2011

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I don't think I could reduce even if a baby was negatively affecting another, what's that like getting rid of a bully baby? Or like animals who abandon the runt? I couldn't" I'd rather the whole pregnancy die then pick and choose who gets to live. I couldn't live with the knowledge I stopped a baby from living. If my life were in danger? Idk, it would be tough but I'm sure my hubby would choose me over a baby so it might come down to his call.
Thankfully twins don't run in my family :)

Lise - posted on 12/17/2011

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After freaking out? Continue. I can't imagine getting rid of a baby (or babies *faint*).

Ez - posted on 12/16/2011

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I would reduce to 3 or 4. No question. I already have one child to care for. I would not risk spending an entire pregnancy in hospital, or worse.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 12/16/2011

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If I didn't have any kids yet? I'd be too stupid to realize what I would be in for so I'd keep them all. I'd be happy go lucky until they came out......... then lose my freaking mind entirely.

I'd ask for anyone and everyones help, family, friends. Suffer. LOL

Knowing now? I don't think I could do it........ twins would be all I could handle but I'd probably reduce to 4 or see what the doctor said. Then pray I don't lose my mind........... no no no no no........ no more babies............ lol

Kelina - posted on 12/16/2011

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I'd continue. After I died of shock of course. And threw up. And then laughed hysterically for about an hour at the look on my hubby's face. I couldn't reduce unless it was medically necessary for the safety of my other babies. I'd never terminate, I had sex knowing that I could get pregnant. I'd be scared as hell though that many babies takes a lot of laundry, a lot of time and a lot of money. Not to mention space, i'd need a minibus to fit them all. I'm not sure i'd be able to deal with an adoption either. i think it would probably feel too much like ripping away part of myself.

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Make a million dollars from James Randi for it would be a verifiable immaculate conception.

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First I would cry. Then I would cry some more. And then I would pass out. Then, after waking up from having passed out, I'd probably either cry some more or go into a fit of hysterical laughter. Once all of THAT business was over, I'd continue with the pregnancy and do like what Johnny said. I'd rely on the advice of my medical team....I'm sure with that many babies I would have myself a team. As far as reduction is concerned, it would all depend on why. And honestly, I don't think that's a question I could answer until I was ever (knock wood) in that (knock knock) situation (knock knock KNOCK). I will say though, that I'm pro choice, but can't think of a situation that would make me choose to have abortion. Also like Johnny, I don't believe in God, so it's not a religious thing for me to not like the idea of abortion for myself. It's personal. It's about how I would be able to sleep at night. But with so many babies......I don't know how I would react. It would all depend on the medical health of each and every one of the babies. It would all have to be weighed and taken into consideration. If all were healthy and fine, I'd continue on. If one or two were compromising the health of all of the rest, or of myself, I may consider reduction. But it would again depend on the details of the why.

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Assuming I were having sex and/or doing something like IVF and I DIDN'T die from shock.... ditto Sherri.

Sherri - posted on 12/16/2011

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I would continue with the pregnancy. I would never reduce or terminate.

Who am I to decide who lives and who dies. Nope wouldn't and couldn't do it. So my pregnancy would continue as God had intended.

Jane - posted on 12/16/2011

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Scream and pass out! At my age I can't conceive of such a thing.

Realistically, assess health risks, probably reduce, and contact an adoption agency. 8 babies (and then toddlers, and then teens) at once?! Just shoot me.

Merry - posted on 12/16/2011

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Haha Johnny yes it happens! There have been spontaneous octuples, nonuplets, even more! Although I believe sextuplets are the most that have even decent odds at any surviving

Tinker1987 - posted on 12/16/2011

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i would base it on how my ultrasounds were going, if there was concern of some of the fetus's i would likely reduce. for safety reasons of course. it could be dangerous to carry on.

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