Im 12 and I got arrested.

Sadia - posted on 04/13/2015 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My first name is Sadia and Im in 7th grade. I hang out with a big group of girl friends at school. I live somewhere in the lower mainland of B.c, but I'm got arrested for bullying. Fine i cyberbullied this girl twice but her mom said in the conference with my teachers that it never bothered the girl, and she just ignored the messages. What I got arrest for was physical fighting and verbal stuff. That girl is cray cray she no friends from school and most grade 7s hate her. She was suicidal because people were physically harming her and threatened her back in 6th grade. Now everyone in the elementary and high schools in our area knows about it because it was on the school board news that says a group of girls and the names are not released yet bullied a girl with a suicidal past but she never hurt herself only thought about it. Other people stopped talking to us after the police was involved and kids from OTHER schools found out too because every school in the entire city is one district and almost everyone goes on the school district sites. I hate going through the high school just to get back home because its in the other side of the neighborhood and especially the seniors are really cold to me and one called out: "What u did was horrible, u deserve consequences. You bullied a young girl almost to death with your middle schoolers". And kids from my elementary school just stopped wanting to be friends and also said i deserve a little consequences in life after the arrest. I 'm not the leader of the popular girls but I am one of them. Help? This is TOO MUCH!!!!!

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Michelle - posted on 04/15/2015

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Suck it up princess!
You bullied another girl, do you want praise for that on a Mother's site? Welcome to the real world of having to deal with consequences.
I agree that your parents are very slack and not punishing you enough. You should have had all your internet/technology taken away for a long time. Your parents should be going to parenting classes if you think this is okay.
It's time you found a new group of friends and apologize to the other girl (and mean it).

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Lillian Angela - posted on 04/17/2015

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You need to get a grip
talk to people like that and you bullied her!! Your cray cray and we'll your arrested so...now it'll teach something to u

Lillian Angela - posted on 04/17/2015

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Well you are the bully in this case is you!! Yes you are needing a punishment BIG TIME stop bullying her and quit putting this down on her,Your twelve and this is for moms so stop bullying her andon't you deserve to be called a moron

Ledia - posted on 04/17/2015

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I don't get why you're upset. It sounds to me like you are now in the same position you put this girl in--no one wants to talk to you or be your friend, just like the other girl, right? If she could handle it, then you can handle it too. Or is she just a stronger person than you are?

Then thing is, you are a bully, and no one wants to be friends with people who bully others. Would YOU want to be associated with you if you were someone else? I wouldn't because no one likes bullies, and generally, no one likes people who hang out with bullies, that is why no one is talking to you. Give it some time, be good for a few years, and people will come back around and start talking to you again.

Sadia - posted on 04/17/2015

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No,it wasn't her fault. Shes an 8th grader and I'm in 7th grade and if you knew her you wouldn't say that. She only did it because the girl was in a split class 7th/8th grade(not sure if your city has split grade classes) and she sat next to the guy we both liked. At first I really didn't like the idea she and the other girls planned but then I kinda enjoyed it(no offense)

Sarah - posted on 04/16/2015

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You say in your previous post that this girl "persuaded" you to bully her? Seriously? Are you trying to tell us it was her fault?

Gena - posted on 04/16/2015

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I agree with the others. You should face the consequences. You should learn to respect others and not mess around with the wrong people. What you did is awful. Have you ever thought of how bad you hurt that girl? How would YOU feel if you were in her shoes? Start treating others the way you would like to be treated.

Dove - posted on 04/15/2015

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I was willing to give you the benefit of the doubt that you had just gotten suckered into the wrong crowd, but you were capable of understanding the gravity of what you had done and you MIGHT be willing to make amends and grow up... maybe I underestimated you....

There is NO excuse for what you have done and you SHOULD face consequences... severe ones. If the girl you bullied did kill herself then 'I' would push for you to go to jail for murder.... how do you like that?

Get off the internet and start making GOOD choices w/ your life or jail is exactly where your behavior is going to get you.

Ev - posted on 04/15/2015

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I have to agree with Jodi. You do not seem to get it that you caused another student, a girl in this instance, some hard times and also made her emotions go down. What do you think you were doing getting all of the 6th, 7th, and 8th grades against her for? What did she ever do to you or the rest of them? Or was it because she did not have the right clothing, haircut or style, shoes, acted the right way, was not popular? What is it about a person that gets them treated this way? What makes you think you have the right to decide who is good enough and who is not?

Jodi - posted on 04/15/2015

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Actually, I didn't call you a moron, I called your parents morons for letting you back on the internet.

But hey, you ARE coming across as a bit of a moron too. Get off the internet and get a conscience and a life in the real world (as opposed to the facebook one where you can spend your time cyberbullying other kids). And yes, if I knew you I'd say the same thing to your face. You DO need consequences for your behaviour, but clearly that isn't happening, so the arrest is probably not a bad thing. How about you learn from your poor behaviour instead of trying to justify it.

Sadia - posted on 04/15/2015

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Seriously,you call me moron? My parents? Well she had the boy who the leader of our group always wanted so she persuaded us all to bully her. Someone wrote on my FB page that I should be in jail even for a 13 year old girl ,that I bullied a young girl almost to death.
Yeah i beated her up once, pushed her down on the swings on the playground at school back in 6th grade, got all the 6th, 7th, 8th graders against her but im don't deserve it! I swear if you know me you wouldnt say it.

Jodi - posted on 04/13/2015

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Firstly, what the heck are you doing with online access if you've been arrested for CLEARLY misusing it. Clearly your parents are morons if they are allowing you to have access to the internet at all after what you have done.

Secondly, do you really think this is a minor issue? Why are you trying to justify it as something minor? You have no right to treat people this way. What is WRONG with you that you can down play it this much?

As I have said to MANY girls your age - would you have said those things to this person's face? (answer is generally "no"). When things are said to you by text or online, is it any less hurtful than if said to your face? STOP hiding behind a computer screen and recognise that what you are doing is wrong. Stop justifying it. Stop making it about you. I'm sorry, but I have to witness the fallout of a young teen who suicided because of bullying (mostly online) and you have no right to do this to ANYONE. I don't care what reasons you think you can come up with. You should be arrested. Try living with the knowledge you bullied a kid to death.

Now get off the internet and do something constructive with your life.

Ev - posted on 04/13/2015

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I agree with what Dove has stated here. What gave you the idea it would be fun and okay to do this to the girl? History of suicide tendency or not, no one deserves to be bullied. How would you feel if you got done this way? Here in the US some kids did commit suicide after being bullied online. And the kids that did it got arrested too. Its not nice to bully someone just because they are not like you. I hope you learn a lesson from this. She could have killed herself anyhow and how would you feel then?

Dove - posted on 04/13/2015

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Choose your friends wiser... Don't just follow the crowd. Think about how this girl felt and how you would feel if it were done to you. There is no good excuse for your behavior. You can either try to make excuses for it and continue down this path getting in worse trouble... or learn from your mistakes and make a change in your life.

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