im 21 and ive been with my boyfriend 4 years and now that we not too long found out im pregnant i cant get him to talk to me or give me the necessary attention. My feelings are so hurt...

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Holly - posted on 10/25/2012

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If you have worries about him messing around, I would take the chance... Its better for the baby If it is born into the situation never knowing you both were together than knowing what a family unit is and then ripping it or from under them... My brother just recently divorced his wife, his5 yo is completely torn up whereas the baby doesn't even know the difference

Holly - posted on 10/24/2012

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he is PROBABLY freaked out about being a father, its probably on him mind 24/7 I am sure it is on yours too, but men deal with things differently; get him to talk about it... maybe go to couples therapy

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Makia - posted on 10/25/2012

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Thats true... im feelin better today... the more i think about it the less i care.! i mean not that i dont care but thats true.. and ill definitely have a well established household as far as him and i by the time this baby arrives. and deep inside i kno we'll most likely be separated by then,

not solely because of whats going on now but because of this person he as shown me he can be. thats not a guy i want to spend any more years with.. but thanks for the advice cause yesterday i was a wreck and at my wits end.. i had to find someone that knew nothing about neither of us that could just give me advice from the outside.. because all my family says is forget him and i dont need him but its not that simple! Thanks again.

Makia - posted on 10/24/2012

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true! i think the same thing... his family is very supportive. but its not the same as having his..i also think he has started to talk to other people! he turns his phone off at night as tho its dead and i dont wanna go through it and find out something for sure but its killing me to keep wonderin.. i feel like he showin me a side of him i never thought i would have to see.. like he turnin his back on me when i need him most and being childish! im confussed because i dont wanna have a baby by somebody that i wont be wit.. i want to have a family and it would be a disgrace to myself if i ended up being just his baby mama but on the other hand i couldnt live wit myself if i decided to get an abortion!! i just want everything to go bck to normal.. be over wit! all i do is think about this situation and cry! this last month has been the worst days of my life!!

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