Im a Navy Wife

Stephanie - posted on 03/24/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Ok so im new to this and hoping that being on here will be supporting and helpful Because my husband is on the USS George H.W Bush (CVN77) that is deployed right now. im raising our 2 kids my son is 1 and I just had our daughter on the 21st of this month, and its been kinda hard getting used to a newborn again and making sure I can move around to play with my son.
I've at times have had a hard time with this deployment which I try not to stress out my husband but its kinda hard when he wants to know everything. im just hoping that with being on here I can have some more support from military wives and hope to maybe get more friends I can talk to that will understand all the stress of being a wife/mom....

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Stephanie - posted on 03/31/2014

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My weekend went ok was able to hear some from hubby and me and my mom got through things and I looked at other sights on here. And I wouldn't mind tlking to her might help out some lol just still gettin used to taking care of 2 kids and myself and the husband

Livia - posted on 03/30/2014

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Hey STephanie, How was your weekend? DId you get to talk to your husband? Did you try and talk to your mom at all? Did you look into the other places on here that have other military wifes, I was talking to one of my gfs and her son is deployed right now and his wife is feeling the same way you are maybe you two should talk, Just an idea. Just let me know how your weekend went :)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/25/2014

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Stephanie, there are also communities on here specifically geared towards military spouses, which you may find extremely helpful.

Its tough when you're separated by deployment with such young ones, but you will get through this.

Good luck, and thank you for your husband's service (and your sacrifice)!

Livia - posted on 03/25/2014

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Also Thank you for your sacrifice and I have great respect for your family, Thank you to your husband for serving our country! I am very proud! Bless you all!

Livia - posted on 03/25/2014

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Oh that's got to be really hard. I know its not the same but when I met my husband he lived in Canada and I lived in Illinois so we did the long distance relationship thing for a long time and it was hard. I know what living with your mom can be like even if they mean well they don't understand and every situation is different. Being in the Army and Navy are two different things totally. Being on deployment is pretty much the same as far as you miss the person your with. You should start writing him a letter every day. Even if its really short. Snail mail letters. (postage) Also if you live on base they have to have some kind of mommy baby day out or something like that for the moms to get together. a support group of types. When he Skypes you do you have any privacy at all or more importantly does he? I was going to say light some candles and have your hair and makeup done all nice and be in cute pajamas cause I doubt you can be in sexy ones with guys around on the ship lol Maybe write him some poetry even if it doesn't sound good to you he will appreciate it. I remember all the calls I used to get from my ex and all the letters. Back then there was no Skype. I would get a letter how they were in a fight and he wouldn't be able to include details and it would make me so upset. One time I went 3 months not hearing from him then one day 30 letters showed up (no joke) and they were from the past 2 months. As far as your mom goes you may want to sit down and just try talking to her. Just tell her you just had a baby, you may even have postpartum depression actually I would bet on it. But tell her you don't need someone picking on you, you need support and help. Then I would look for some type of support groups and maybe even a therapist. Maybe you need to go on an anti depressant for a short time. I am not a doctor and I don't like taking meds but sometimes they really help people. I am just offering advice I am not telling you what to do. Try meditation they have some websites that teach you how to do it.
Keep me posted you can send me a private message as well on here

Stephanie - posted on 03/25/2014

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I have my mom living with me and she helps out but at times she can be alil hurtful and its hard for me to deal with everything cuz I have depression and for the most part I can deal with it pretty good but I just hate when she thinks she knows a lot cuz she had been married to someone that was in the army and she thinks army and navy are bout the same and the navy is different sure the deployment times are only 8 to 9 months but still. ive tried meeting people but it don't work out to well cuz of the fact they are so busy and the only way we really tlk is from facebook so. but I try to make time for myself but my mom will grip if I want something for myself and which the hubby don't really know bout that but I don't need to stress him out anymore then what he is, and we both write in a journal and we have video cam so we can send the memory card back and forth to see each other I mean whenever he hits ports its nice cuz we get to Skype but other then that it sucks waiting for emails and phone calls. the deployment might end around Christmas time so im just trying to get through each day cuz right now there all a blur since my daughter was born..

Livia - posted on 03/25/2014

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I was not married to a military man but I was with one for 5 years. The deployments were the worst. I cant imagine having a family and on top of it having a newborn while he is away. That has to be so hard. Do you have any help at all? I know at most bases they have support groups for moms have you tried any of those. When your husband calls and wants to know EVERYTHING that has happened try keeping a little journal throughout the day and jot things down and on days that you don't have time just tell him, Im here alone with no one with a new born and I am trying to do everything. When I am not dealing with the kids I try to get some sleep or I am making bottles, or lunch or dinner for the next day. Tell him ur trying to go out and meet other women for support and that your on here talking to women, You have to make time for yourself or you will lose it and YOU DON'T want that to happen, Maybe go talk to the base priest or social worker. I check my email everyday so if you want to email me please feel free to do so. I can tell your a tough cookie and YOU CAN do this! When does his deployment end? Where are you stationed? Anyway drop me a line here or send me an email! I hope I have helped you a little!! Liv

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