im at my wits end regards to my partnes, he is turning my two children against me

Lisa - posted on 01/03/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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he is munipulating them he as broke every court order goin he still wants to know wot im doing even though we have seperated 7 years ago he doesnt provide for them he as kidknapped my son twice first time we got a seek and find order then he broke it again doin the same thing he as failed drugs test he as been violent an verbally abused me an mentally an he is trying to brainwash my kids ive lost 2 jobs because of him, yet he is still allowed to see them please help as i dont know how much more i can take

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Keshia - posted on 01/03/2011

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you should set up a appt with a case worker at your local social services and talk to them about this as long as he is on drugs he should not be around your children and they could drug test him and make him take classes until he is able to see the children again and maybe you could talk to a counsler yourself about everything going on in your life also you need to contact a lawyer asap something needs to be done good luck

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Hun, as hard as it is please don't leave the country to get the kids away. That is technically kidnapping and if you go somewhere and get caught then you'll be sent back to wherever you are running from and your ex will get the kids while you sit in jail.,.



My advice is to document, document, document! Find a good lawyer (because if your ex has truly done all you say he has, then your previous lawyers must have sucked to not get you sole custody) and FIGHT for those kids. All they have is you and while running away may seem like the only thing to do, it's not the right answer. Instead, use that money for a good lawyer (or even a private investigator to follow your ex around and get evidence of hs drug use?) and go through the legal channels. Yes, it sucks sometimes, but it's really all you can do.



Please feel free to PM me if you need to talk. My hubby and I are in a custody battle right now with our oldest (my step daughter) and I know how hard it can be.

Lisa - posted on 01/03/2011

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i am now considering trying to get the money together to try an leave the country just to get my children away from him

Lisa - posted on 01/03/2011

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i have a lawyer gone through 2 in the last seven years i just dont know wot to to do anymore or where to turn my family have been great but there is only so much they can do, ive been looking for any kind of organisations that could be of any support to me but its so hard, he is goin for custody of my son aaswell now but not my daughter, as he seams to be able to get to him more, i dont know wot i would do if i lost either of my children to him. I just want someone to tell me wot to do nex, tive been intouch with social services they say as long as the kids arnt under any threat there is nothing they can do

Krista - posted on 01/03/2011

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Contact your lawyer, or legal aid if you do not have a lawyer. This is not something you will be able to resolve on your own, and you must protect those children.

Sarah - posted on 01/03/2011

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Wow. I am prayiong for you hunny. Eventually your kids will see. Just stay strong for them!

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