Im in a messd up situation. Help?

Michele - posted on 12/22/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am engaged a man who has a child. I have been in this child's life since he was 4 months old! The mother of this child, trapped my 24 year old fiance into having this baby.. He wasn't aware of the child, nor were her own parents away until a week before she had him!. She wanted to basically tie him down by having his child. But it didn't work.. Now I'm over here getting harassed by her.. In early October she was found to be dating a man who got arrested for armed robbery, and position of drugs. This man was always around her child.. My fiance was not happy, he made her parents aware of the situation and they weren't either.. Long story short, my fiance and I have the baby 24/7 still she just visits.. and when she gets him on the weekends she can not leave the house with him.. unless her parents are there. NOW she is seeing a therapist for the constant lying, and making excuses.. But it still hasn't stopped.. NOW someone has called CPS on her.. And they are investigating.. BUT she is blaming me? I don't think she realizes if I wanted to call CPS on her I wouldn't have to make up any stories.. I could simply tell them how he had a bite that looked like ring worm, so we asked her if she brought the baby to the doctor. She said yes, the doctor said that it was a bug bite and it will go away... Well a week later it didn't go away, and i made us go to the doctor immediately.. To find out she didn't take him to the doctor and that it was RINGWORM and if it wasn't treated it could of ended badly for us.. NOW that's pure neglect. Her and her mother are telling me I called, and telling me i going to regret it and what not.. The call was mad anonymous, and I really didn't call.. What should i do? This is a bad time. I experience everything with this baby, his first everything !! So I don't claim him as my child. But i am a prime caregiver for him. I love him . We have a connection. .. When CPS comes to our home to investigate should I tell the investigator all the info I have on her?,. ALSO I have messages from Facebook of her trying to tell me well your man cheated on you with me, and he hates you.. Petty immature things.. Also she wanted to come fight me, so i printed it out and saved it in case she tried to switch the story.

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Amaya - posted on 12/22/2012

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Do nothing...You can tell them u didnt call till ur blue n the face n they wnt believe u..... anything that gonna go wrong they gonna blame u because they dnt want u and ur man together..... A female can be really shady and sneaky when it comes to wanting something u cnt have..... They jus trying to break u... Dnt let them get to u Boo... U and ur old man knw that u didnt call so the HELL wit the rest of them.... They jus want drama n yalls relationship... Dnt give them what they want.. keep ur cool and take it day by day.. keep being u and the rest will fall into place... Look at it this way people dnt talk bout nobody.. they talk bout somebody.... ANd ur name is always n their mouths... That lets u knw they always thinkn bout u... Lol.......... Also remember that " A woman doesnt want a man that nobody wants".......

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