V - posted on 03/20/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
Im moving away but my daughter does not want to move. She has the opportunity to go to a prestigious Catholic High School so she is choosing to stay with her father. The problem is I have had her for the last 14 years and has not required her father to pay child support so he could help provide her with a good education from catholic school. When our relationship ended 6 yrs ago it was my decision so he is still angry and refused to help with any finances concerning her living expenses. He has only paid tuition for her schooling.
Now that she is going to move with him he is making all sorts of financial threats. I do no want to deprive my daughter of this excellent education but I also want to know how to protect myself. He is a very evil and vindictive person so I dont know what I should do to protect myself. I have agreed to pay half of the yearly tuition but I dont think he will stop there. While he has not help me with any living expenses since we have broken up he has mentioned that hes going to make sure I help him. Is there anyway to protect myself from this person besides taking my child with me and possibly ruining an excellent opportunity? Can he really hurt me financially when he hasnt contributed in so long? I have considered going put myself on child support to eliminate disaster but I dont think that is the answer.
I am definitely praying that is the only way I have made it thus far with this person.
P.S. I am not from here but he is. I am 1000 miles away from my friends and family and after 11 years I am ready to be closer to my family. I stayed because I have a daughter just graduated from college and another starting college in the fall.