Im new to the ADHD motherhood i could really use some advice!!

Victoria - posted on 10/27/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am a single mother of 2 children, an 18 month old and a 4 year old. They have both been going to daycare since they were born. Through out the years of my oldest son being in daycare he has just recently started the prek program there at his daycare.. the past couple years he has been acting out, being physically hurtful to his fellow peers at school and being very disruptive.. I have tried disciplining him such as time out, spanking if necessary or taking things away that he likes to do but he is just so impulsive and hateful that he cant accept the fact of punishment.. i took him to a psychiatrist recently and she prescribed him Adderall and diagnosed him with ADHD... i feel like maybe this will help him, but i feel bad at the same time that im not doing everything i can to help him through this time in his life, maybe he will grow out of it? its getting out of control, daycare really tries to help me with him as much as possible because they know i suffer with working as much as i do and raising two children by my self. they call him zippy zayden at school and say they wait for him to just start running around the walls because he cant control his hyperness... i feel so helpless:(

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Jene - posted on 10/28/2016

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Repetition is your best friend. He will continue to move off the rug a ton in the beginning and every time he moves just put him back. Let him have a temper tantrum if he needs it ( even adults need it from time to time)... but ONLY on the rug. I promise the rug thing works. Our is a big area rug though. My son will roll himself up in it and go all over it, but he knows his boundaries. Every once in a while I go and practice square breathing with him or just say a prayer with him. His ADHD causes him major anxiety. If I remember right adderal also majorly messed with my sons sleep pattern also. Another reason we went to a non stimulant.

Victoria - posted on 10/28/2016

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well today was day 2 of the medicine... it didn't work very well yesterday but he did wake up at 5 o clock this morning which is very unusual for him. Every one tells me that I shouldnt have put him on medicine, that I only did it because I don't want to deal with it. Which is not the case at all, I love him and would do anything in the world for him. Im terrified that when he starts going to actual prek school and kindergarden, that he will be so terribly bad and kick him out for hitting kicking and such. Rug time sounds like a great idea, but how did you manage to get him to sit still? My son just cant seem to grasp the concept of "being in trouble" that he thinks he can still do whatever he pleases. He constantly gets up from where I put him several times, I try to tell him to be quiet that he is in trouble and doesn't get to talk to anyone but its never ending "mom, ill be good, I wont hit my sister again, I wont do this or that again" but he doesn't realize that hes saying all of these things but he doesn't do them? if that makes any sense at all..

Jene - posted on 10/27/2016

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Nope...unfortunately he won't grow out of it. But he can learn to manage it. I have a 19 year old and 8 year old with ADHD. First of all... bravo for giving him medicine!! My 19 year old still has the mindset I gave him of doing things the natural way and I pray that he would now take something to help him focus and breathe. My 8 year old was on adderal but then got a TBI and I was told to put him on strattera ( non stimulate) and ability at night. I love that WAY better ( but all kids are different). As far as doing something at home... one thing that we developed is rug time. He has an area he sits on until he calms with a basket of things if he needs them ( stress ball, books etc) . Also when we become stressed we do square breathing. You trace a square with your finger... up for inhale and over to the right to hold and down for exhale and over again to hold. Repeat until necessary. It also sounds like he may have a form of ODD. That's a whole entire diffferent way of parenting and requires ALOT of research and help with parenting techniques from a professional. This is what has helped me a ton! Hope this helps some:) good luck

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