Im pregnant and have a 10 year old can i tell him?

Cintya Gutierrez - posted on 02/18/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )




I just found out yesterday im ten year old tells me and his father he doesnt wait a baby brother or sister because of his age, we are afraid to tell him, but i also dont want him to see that we are afraid because maybe he can manipulate the situation or make me feel bad like if a dissapointed nervous, i just want to make him part of all...


Ev - posted on 02/18/2016




Like it or not, he is going to become a big brother. He needs to know. Do not push or nag him about the whole thing. You need to let him digest this over time and adjust to the fact that he is going to have a sibling. He also needs to know that you love him just as much and the same as you always have. At some point after he has had some time to adjust to the idea, start to include him in things. Make him aware of how much help he can be with the new baby and let him help with choosing clothing, toys, furniture, and other things a baby will need. You could also have him pick a name or two out he likes to consider for the name of the new baby (I did this with my daughter who was 6 years old at the time we found out she was going to have a brother). It is important to keep him in the who process as you go along. If at some point he can attend a check up where they check the measurements and other things that let him hear the heartbeat. It is amazing the look on their faces when they do hear it.
The other two ladies do voice some concerns to look into as well if there are other issues that are of concern to you.

Michelle - posted on 02/18/2016




I agree with the other ladies.
I'm concerned that you are so nervous to tell a 10yo. It makes me think that he has a bit too much say in the household, rather than you, the parents.


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Wyndhambuysell - posted on 02/18/2016




My son was ten when his sister was born and he is Obsessed with her. He cried when he found out we were having a girl (didn't want a girl!) Now I have to keep him out of her room so he doesn't wake her up from her naps to play with her! Have your son be a part of your pregnancy. Take him to some of your doctor visits. Have him be a huge part of the baby when you have her. Have him come to the hospital when you give birth and give him a gift from her. Give him a gift at your shower if you have one. let him hold her and change her and watch her or him!!! I keep saying her. but you get the gist. Make her /him your sons baby!

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2016




That is weird he is saying he does not want a baby because of his age.....sounds like an adult answer not a 10 yr old answer. If you present it in a positive manner then most of the time it is received that way. Listen to his concerns, but also reassure him. Why are you so afraid on him? That is not normal.......yes being concerned about how your son will take the news is normal, but being so afraid is not. You may want to look into that some and see if changes need to be addressed.

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