im sad

Grace - posted on 09/27/2016 ( 14 moms have responded )

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need hugs ......to deal with this pain . how can i not matter to my 19 years old girl no more . ????

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/29/2016

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You just sent your daughter 30 THOUSAND dollars?

Wow. Want to adopt me? I could use an extra 30K...

You can't buy her back. You haven't LOST her! However, you have just indicated to her that you are willing to be a doormat...

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Dove - posted on 09/30/2016

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If $30,000 is not a lot of money to you I think I may have discovered one of your biggest problems... you think throwing money at a 'problem' is the solution. There is a lot more to life than money and you can't BUY a relationship w/ your daughter. What went wrong? You likely spoiled her rotten. You don't give a child everything they want... you give them everything they NEED (which has very little to do w/ worldly possessions other than basics) and maybe a bit of what they want on special occasions... and teach them to work for what they want.

You were upset that she moved out w/out saying anything, so your response to that was to throw $30,000 at her. That... is completely insane.

Grace - posted on 09/29/2016

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not att all .
she have more then that in her bank .
cash is no issue . is the way she just left thats all .

Grace - posted on 09/29/2016

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we told her that she will be getting alot when she is done with uni . 30. k is not alot to comper of what she wil lbe getting .
money was never any prob with her or her sisters . i kno w she have more then that in her bank . so cash is no prob .
just wondering from being so near and happy and all the help we do around the world . just back from cambodia with the family . and india .
just dont get it .
but im starting to feel . ....you wanted to go then go find what you are looking for
we care for you . but be safe . thats all . we are your mum and dad . all we can do

Grace - posted on 09/29/2016

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out of worried i just put 30.000 us dollars in her bank .
just so i know she is ok .

Grace - posted on 09/29/2016

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thank you once again to taking time for me.
im happy she is all grown up and do act as such . its shows we have done a good job getting her ready for the world.
how ever the way she left . as im just out of hospital . with no good bye . that we dont know where or who she lives with ? makes me sad. she meet new friends and now she is totally a defrent girl . and thats ok she is 19 +
i get all taht her been a grown up .
but im just worried about her . maybe im old fashion but all the pics she send to defrent boys on her snapschat ....did some thing . changed her .

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/28/2016

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The more I am reading, the more I think that her method was the only way she COULD leave without a bunch of drama

Grace - posted on 09/28/2016

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thank you . its true im going to hold my head high and know i did a wonderful job raising her . but a nice good bye would be great a hug to her sister and a good bye would be lovely . a hug to her dad who is so hart broken now .
nothing came pack her things and left . and asked her to bin eb´very thing she has left behind .
we all feel that the earth just open and we are falling down
why ? how? who ? what friends she gone to ----?

Grace - posted on 09/28/2016

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thank you for your lovely words .
i just wish she would have done it in a nicer way . not just im going today .....and we still dont know where or who she stay with . she just left as i came back home from hospital .....who does that ???
thats what hurt .....

Sarah - posted on 09/27/2016

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I agree, why be sad? If she really needed you, then you would not have done your job

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/27/2016

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It isn't that you don't matter, but she has her own life to live and move forward in.

You may benefit from counseling

Jodi - posted on 09/27/2016

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It's not that you don't matter any more, it's that she has grown up and needs her independence. You should be proud of the fact that you have raised an independent young lady. This is EXACTLY the purpose for which we raise our children - to become fully functioning adults. Sure, it's hard, and we miss them, but rather than taking it as a personal snub against you, look at it as having done your job well as a parent, that your child can function well in society without you doing it for her.

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