im scared my daughter will be taken away

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015 ( 26 moms have responded )

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My step son molested my little girl an idk what to do I love my family but can't stand looking at him if I call police or dhs will they take her away from me?

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Sarah - posted on 03/06/2015

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I still wish I knew if the stepson is a minor or not, because that will affect the course of events ahead. I see he was assaulted at 7, but was that 20 years ago?

Sarah - posted on 03/05/2015

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If the offender is a minor and has no place to go, like inpatient treatment or whatever. Then the daughter will be taken into protective custody. CPS does not do that to be unkind, but they must prevent further assault.

Trisha - posted on 03/05/2015

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I haven't read all of these posts, but I will let you know that my brother at 15 years molested my 3 year old cousin. My brother did end up in a juvenile detention center for 6 months. During that 6 months he got intensive counselling and therapy.
My brother currently has a 3 year old little girl with a very attentive and loving girlfriend, and I could NOT imagine him doing it again. Your step-son needs intervention NOW.

I have seen him in tears, racked in guilt for what he did to my cousin, but it was only through this therapy that he got to this point. He admitted to me in tears, that at first, he was only upset he got caught, and begged me to forgive him.

Your son will need this time and therapy if they do put him in jail, and they probably will. You need to make that phone call. My mom took my brother down into the police station herself. It was such a hard thing for her to do, but she did it. It was the right thing to do.

Stacey - posted on 03/04/2015

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My step son molested my Daughter repeatedly over the course of two years. I found out via my Daughters school. I took the necessary steps to remove him from our home five years ago. My point is this...you NEED to take the appropriate steps ASAP...not only for her but for you. I still struggle daily with this mentally. My Daughter had the needed counseling etc. However...to this day she has anger issues, etc. The sooner you face this the better for her. I can also be honest in telling you that your hurt may never go away. Mine hasn't. I now struggle with my own demons but continue to be sure my Daughter is healing.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/05/2015

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Thanks Dove. I finally got to read post by post, and finally saw that.

Dove - posted on 03/05/2015

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Little Miss... I think she said the stepson was molested when he was 7 and it was covered up... I'm assuming that means no one ever sought to get him help... in which case he is likely acting out what happened to him. Not an excuse, at all, and I don't know how old he is now... but BOTH of these children likely need a lot of help asap...

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/05/2015

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I have breezed through the comments looking for your step sons age and other information. I did not run across that, nor did I see other information. Like has anyone told you that usually a child that molests another child, is usually the victim of child molestation?

I am so sorry this happened to your daughter, but now is the time to think about her safety and all the other children in the household. Please take action asap. I have seen that others have given advice on how to go about this, and better sooner than later before this happens again.

KeepingupwiththeRobles - posted on 03/05/2015

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To protect your Daughter you may wish to call the Police. They should remove him from the home and give him therapy (depending on his age) . I think you need to do it to protect your Daughter. I am not a Social worker by any means but I can't see that they would take your child from you, you are not the one who molested her. Best of luck to you!

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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I'm so sorry that it happened to u I'm so upset an suck I can't sleep y should my two kids loose there daddy an me my husband over something his son did I tried being a mom to him cause we have custody but I can't look at him I was molested by my cousin when I was 8 I've never forgotten an neither will Gracie and it kills me I feel awful I just want to shoot myself but I love my two kids so much I have to do what's right and joining this group helped me figure out what to do like I said b4 I've never been in this situation and now I know what to do to keep her safe an I thank all of u ur truly a blessing from God

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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Thank u an I did tell her that an she's sad cause I won't let her see him she's so young an innocent she doesn't understand and it kills me but my daughter an her safety means slot to.me u helped slot thank u

Sasha - posted on 03/04/2015

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Im glad you took the first step in protecing your daughter. Just dont be scared be strong and confident. Because she needs to see you strong. She needs to feel safe in your arms. Always remember no matter what this was never her fault make sure she knows that as well.

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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Ok thank u I honestly didn't know what to.do this has never happened b4 or to anyone I know I appreciate all the help. Thank u everyone

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2015

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Depending on his age and the police may or may not arrest your stepson, they will call CPS. CPS will investigate within 24 hours, sooner if it is a crisis (they may come right away). If you do not have a way to separate the two of them, they will take your daughter into protective custody. If both of them are minors, and they live in the same house, you will have to find a place for one of them until the investigation is complete.
No matter how inconvenient, or scary this is for you, you number one thought must be to protect your daughter and keep her away from her predator.

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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I did call a counselor would u like the name an number? She said it's a serious case an that she would have to give me to someone higher up that she was a substance abuse counselor I don't have slot of money I'm sorry I can't afford just anyone but I am.trying

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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Ok so just call police department an do what they say? I will now thank u for ur help this is so hard I wish it never would have happened

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2015

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@Tiffany Jean "I've talked to a counselor who suppose to call me back I just scared an don't want my baby taking away"
If you truly called a counselor, that person has no choice but to call CPS. You step-son, depending on his age, will receive treatment, be criminally prosecuted or both. If you fail to report this, you are endangering your daughter's mental and physical well-being and you could lose custody of her. You cannot keep a victim and her assailant in the same home, no matter what rules you put in place! He can't look at her, eat with you and you think that protects your child? She has got to be terrified. How old are your daughter and step-son?

Sasha - posted on 03/04/2015

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The cops press chrages! ask the cops what do i do to protect my daughter. And do excatly what the say. If that means you and your daughter live with another family member for awhile do it at at least youll have your daughter and most importanly your daughter will have you.

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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He is being punished what I'm trying to figure out is who I report him 2 I'm his step mom N when he was 7 he was messed with his mom helped her step son lie an get away with it.. But who do I call?

Sasha - posted on 03/04/2015

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First this needs to be reported and he needs to be punshished. If you dont do this your coving up a sereart your pretecting him. If you report this your showing your daughter your protecting her at all cost. And your daughter wont be taken away if you show that you and your husband report this that will show them that you reported it out of concern for your child. Who knows how the law will play out on his sons part but he needs counsling and maybe someones doing it to him as well

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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Thank u Jodi yes we do I love my family very much we keep him away from her but we dk what to do we don't want our kids taking away
But I need help I googled stuff but nothing comes up we r currently looking for counselor I know I sound like a horrible mother but I'm not I love my husband an family very much I can't stress it enough but our daughter was messed with by his son an idk who to call help plz? Any ideas

Tiffany - posted on 03/04/2015

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I just found out an I don't know who to call or what to do he's not allowed around her or to even look at us he stays an eats in his room I don't want jail for him but I want.him gone an like I said idk what to doin talked to my daughter an she loves her daddy an step brothers I don't want this to destroy my family I know I want my daughter safe an not have to worrie an I don't want him around her so do I call cops myself or dhs? I've talked to a counselor who suppose to call me back I just scared an don't want my baby taking away

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/04/2015

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So, you've done nothing?

If you'd initially reported it, the alleged perpetrator could have been removed, and steps taken to get the situation handled.

If you HAVE NOT reported it, and you are allowing the alleged perpetrator and victim to remain in the same housing situation...It could be considered against you.

Take the necessary steps to protect your child. THAT is your job, not worrying about what the consequences to you will be.

Michelle - posted on 03/04/2015

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Why have you not reported it?
You owe it to your Daughter to get him out of her life! The longer you leave him in the home or around your daughter the worse it will get for you. If you have allowed him to be around your daughter then yes, DHS could take her away. If you had reported it straight away the chances are less.
Your job is to protect your children no matter what!

Jodi - posted on 03/04/2015

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I'm sorry, are the two of them still living in the same house? Have you not sought medical attention for your child? Psychological counselling?

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