Sasha - posted on 07/27/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I can't help but feel like I am being treated like a single mother. My husband and I have been married a year on August 13th and we just had a beautiful baby boy on May 3rd of this year. Along with that I have a 6y/o from a prior relationship. Everything was amazing through the pregnancy, he did everything in his power to keep my emotions from running wild and to keep me happy. However, things have changed. Our son was born with Malrotation with volvulous which is when your bowels fold on top of one another overlapping and causing a severe blockage. We almost lost him but his pediatrician had him airlifted to Sick Kids Hospital in Toronto where he underwent surgery and remained for the first month of his life. Now that we are home everything is different. He is constantly blaming and criticizing me for everything from doing dishes wrong to wanting to have 5 minutes of time for myself. I stay awake pretty much 24/7 tending to our boys with little to no help. Don't get me wrong, he will change diapers and do the occasional feeding but that doesn't cut it. I decided to bottle feed so he can share the bond with our son and have that bonding experience but whenever I ask him to take a feed for me it's like pulling teeth. I am not allowed to go anywhere without taking the kids even if he has nothing to do at home. He refuses to be alone with them and has even started getting verbally abusive about me trying to find part time work to help with the bills. He always claims he does everything to provide for the family but when I try he gets mad then uses the "I pay for everything" statement. I don't know how much more I can deal with. I am literally at my breaking point and when I suggested marriage counseling he lost his mind and actually told me to get the F out of the house if I don't believe in our marriage. I would have left but can't afford to seeing as I can't have a job. It's a vicious circle and I am so lost. I don't want my boys to see me unhappy so I pretend everything is fine but don't know how much longer I can play this game. His family has even started blaming me for everything. His little sister is 19 and she posted nasty messages on my Facebook wall stating that I am cruel for asking for help cause thats how marriage is. She doesn't have kids or a husband let alone a boyfriend for that matter and I am supposed to be thrilled about that? I told my husband about this and he yelled at me telling me I am useless and that something is wrong with me cause I can't get along with his family. I need help. Please...someone help me figure out what I'm doing wrong.