Jamy - posted on 05/06/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Ok so the short version of my life right now is I am stuck in a state by the courts. I am trying to move back home where I will have family and financial support. I have 2 boys (15 months) and (4). The one year old has a father that lives close to us now but he and I both are from the state I am trying to move back to. Both of our families are out there. He will not let me lave because he is fighting for Joint custody so he will not have to pay child support. H has a lot of money so courts have been going on for over a year. He cheated on his wife and she stayed with him so they are both playing any game they can to try and hurt me. I had to get a restraining order against him a few months ago because he threatened my life in front of our son. I lost my job due to schedule changes and not being able to pay daycare to work weekends too. Day care for 2 boys was more then rent. So I put in my notice to relocate 4 months ago. he is fighting it so courts postponed till sept. I am ordered to stay here with no job, no child support, he only pays when he feels its ok. he still will not hand into the courts his w2's. and this has gone on over a year. how is this fair. he gets my 15 month old 3 nights a week and works so he doesn't even spend the time with him. He is left with the bitter wife. Im scared for my baby. but courts will not do a thing. They order me to stay and How am I supposed to go on interviews if I cannot afford daycare. how do I get an apartment with no job. I just now got signed up for food stamps. life saver.. it kills my pride but I need the help. I have no friends or family here. I have only lived in this state for 3 years and the job I had was where my friends were. so when that went south I lost friends. How can a court order for a single mother to stay in a state for 6 more months with no resources, this will only show that I am not capable to raise my babies. that is not true tho because I have a house and family and a job back home where I am trying to move ot. my lawyers do not care about me or my boys just the money and how this may look to the judge. I tried going on a talk show to get some help and I was ambushed into making a total different show and made a fool of. We did get a free mediator out of the deal but I need a lawyer or some type of help to get me back home for the support. I am raking up my credit cards staying in hotels and over 10 thousand has gone to lawyers. how do it get through this? all the while I am struggling the father makes over 70k and steals gov heatlth insurance for his wife and 3 kids. and Food stamps for over 5 years. They work the system and steal from the gov. and they now work the courts and stealing my sons and my time and money. how do I push forward. Can I tell the courts that I don't have a place to liove or a job, or will this make me look unstable. I have very good credit up until now. but when he does\nt pay child support for months at a time I cant pay on the credit cards. please help. I do know its a bad situation. I am doing the best and will do anything for my boys. I want to be a stay at home mom to raise my boys. I also need to enroll my 4 year old in school to start this year and I don't have an address to do so. My house back home and great schools are just waiting for us and I cant go yet..Please HELP! any advice or links would be greatly appreciated..