Im the father of my son and need help/ advice

Jeromereed66 - posted on 10/22/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My sons mom and I are together still. I was not put on the birth certificate like I thought that I was. No every time my wife and I (well gf we are not married but refer to each other as husband and wife) get into a fight she tells me that I'm not on the birth certificate and I have no rights if she was to leave me or if I was to leave her, I would not see my son. This kills me cause my kids are my life and the reason for living. Do I have any right now being on the birth certificate or dies she hold all the cards? We live in Utah BTW.

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Michelle - posted on 10/22/2016

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I'm also wondering why you aren't on the birth certificate.
I would be having a good look at your relationship as well, it doesn't sound like a very good one to be bringing up children in.

Jodi - posted on 10/22/2016

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If she keeps throwing this in your face, it tells me that your relationship is not particularly stable and that she isn't really giving consideration to the child's rights here either. Birth certificate or not, you have rights. I don't know how your system works, because it is different depending on where you live, but you should be able to get forms to add you to the birth certificate with the mother's consent (and if she won't consent, then I'd very much question the relationship). Your best option would be to start with your local Births Deaths and Marriages office and ask what your options are. You should also consider couples counselling - this kind of argument is not okay and is potentially not only driving a wedge in your relationship but also placing the child in the middle when you have an argument.

Michelle - posted on 10/22/2016

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You need to get yourself acknowledged as their Father. Ask a lawyer but usually a DNA test is done and then the birth certificate is amended.

Valentines - posted on 10/22/2016

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I would also get a DNA test to ensure they are your kids before you get in to deep

Valentines - posted on 10/22/2016

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If your on the birth certificate and are the father you can go to the town hall in the town or city to request a copy. If she continues to make those comments you do have the right to petition the court for scheduled visitation rights if you break up. What I would do from experience get a notebook and start saving all the receipts of expenses you have spent on your child as proof that you provide financial support.

Dove - posted on 10/22/2016

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It would be best for you to talk to a lawyer. If you are not on the birth certificate and do not have proof of paternity you don't, currently, have any legal rights, but the fact that she keeps throwing this in your face would be reason enough for 'me' to petition the courts for a DNA test and pursue 50/50 custody through the courts immediately.

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