Immaturity

Jamie - posted on 09/25/2016 ( 41 moms have responded )

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Hello I'm new here I have a question about immaturity. If a adult is let's say 35 does maturity even matter meaning your an adult already.?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/25/2016

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If you are living in HER home, you don't get to tell her to take a walk.

You get to leave. You NEED to be more responsible. Sorry if you don't like that, but you have created your situation, and you are the only one who can do anything about it.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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Or you could do something about it. Sitting back and throwing up your hands and saying "but this is just the way I am because my mum made me this way" is a total cop out.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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Actually, now that I think about it, I think my 11 year old has more maturity than you do.

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Michelle - posted on 09/25/2016

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So, just in case your aren't a troll:
Quit blaming your Mum for how your life has turned out.
YOU have made choices that see you in the position you are in.
YOU can make better choices and live your own life.
My Aunt keeps blaming everyone else for how her life has turned out and it doesn't change things.
Get yourself a job, stick to it and move out on your own. I don't know what 35yo old want to still live at home.

Ev - posted on 09/25/2016

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Jamie--do not be so dense about it. You should really stop to think things through before you do them.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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I know Dove.....fun times :/

Jamie, please don't have sex. Have you ever watched the movie Idiocracy? Just please don't have sex.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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It's probably even our 13 year old back to troll because she needs to get a life.

Jamie - posted on 09/25/2016

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Wow so ok do i tell my mom to go take a walk like I want to. She spanked me for everything always controlled everything. Don't worry im on birth control can't get preggo. I guess I can get a job and keep it. A troll? Sorry everyone thanks for the advice.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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Or another person trolling. There is that. Which would also make you a moron.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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You are 35. She shouldn't HAVE to teach you or explain anything. Maybe you aren't immature, maybe you are just a moron.

Sarah - posted on 09/25/2016

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"Another pregnancy will fix her good" And what about the baby? Your statement is about the most selfish thing I ever heard. You are an adult. You've been an adult for a long time. If you were not raised well, then you have to work towards figuring out what you need to fix. If you can't manage your money, then seek help with budgeting. If you cannot parent, then take a parenting class. Get a job, and actually go. If you think your are immature due to how you were parented, then why wouldn't you want to better that for your child? This is a choice. No one is forcing your to be immature; you are choosing to be irresponsible.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/25/2016

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No wonder she insists you be on birth control. You really are not mature enough to be a parent.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/25/2016

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Instead of driving to do BETTER with your life, you are whining and plotting"revenge" by purposely doing something to further get on your mother's nerves. That gives you the maturity of about an 8 year old. Stop bitching at us, stop blaming everyone else.

If you want to be treated like the adult you claim to be, ACT LIKE ONE.

Get a JOB. TAKE CARE of your own kid. MEET your RESPONSIBILITIES!!!!!!!

Quit copping out and acting like a loser.

Jamie - posted on 09/25/2016

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It's not a cop out its her fault she made me maybe she was to immature to have kids. So instead of teaching me or explaining. Sorry if I am whinning or being negative idk i just wanna get back at her i live with her so another pregnancy will fix her good..

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/25/2016

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Even my 19 year old makes more mature decisions than you seem to be doing.

Grow up.

Ev - posted on 09/25/2016

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You are acting like a kid then. No older than a teen actually. Your lace of maturity is showing. Having kids to get back at mom? Who is going to raise this one? Sounds like mom is taking care of YOUR RESPONSIBLITIES!

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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If you are 35 and acting like this.....yes, it is YOUR responsibility and YOUR choice. Grow up and stop blaming everyone else for your problems. You are the only one who has control over what you do with your life from here.

If I were your mother I'd be telling you to move out because it is well past time for you to learn to adult. Even my 19 year old is more mature than you.

Ev - posted on 09/25/2016

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If you are 35 years old you need to stop going job to job and stop getting credit cards. You need to be learning to pay your bills and sticking to things.

As for custody of your child? Why does mom have her?

Jamie - posted on 09/25/2016

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I either quit or just don't go i opened credit cards went shopping never paid. I have read online alot is upbringing let's not go there though. Idk my mom basically has full custody over my daughter. She said im not responsible I feel it's her fault..

Ev - posted on 09/25/2016

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To be honest, none of us really know you and so we can not say if you are mature or not.

Ev - posted on 09/25/2016

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1) If you are over 18 years old, your parents are not legally allowed to put you or force you to go on birth control unless for some reason they have been given guardianship over you as a legal matter.

2)You are going round and round with the questions on maturity. A mature person goes straight to the point on questions to get answers.

Jamie - posted on 09/25/2016

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Well that's my answer then I guess obviously im not considered a child but usually treated like one. My mom said i act like im 17 because of my decision making. My friends say basically the same. I never act serious with anything. My mom forced me to go on birth control because she feels I can't act responsible. To me mom mom seems like she is the one acting nuts.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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Still not understanding the point. Being an adult (over 18) doesn't always mean you are mature. It's about your choices and ability to act like an adult. Age is only a number. Are you considered a child? Legally, of course not. But if you want to act like a child, maybe people will treat you like one. Whatever.

Ultimately, this is an incredibly juvenile question. It indicates to me that maybe you aren't particularly mature.

Jamie - posted on 09/25/2016

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My question is im 35 my friends and my mom both basically labeled me.very immature. But im.35. So am I considered 35 or a child like they all basically say...

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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Why don't you just come straight out and ask you REAL question? That would demonstrate maturity. This business of asking cryptic questions is not demonstrating that at all.

Jodi - posted on 09/25/2016

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I'm still not really seeing your point. Who labelled you as immature? Adults can be immature too. Being an adult doesn't make you mature automatically. Maturity comes with experience, knowledge and education. I know 40+ year olds who lack maturity.

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