Anna - posted on 11/12/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
Im in a pretty tough spot right now, i have a 2 year old son and havent been with his dad since he was about 6 months old. I got married about 5 months ago to a great man after dating him for a year almost. my son calls him daddy and he is the only dad my son has ever known. My sons "real" dad has never paid me child support hardly ever called to see him, dated 18 yr olds and he is 28 mind you and has since knocked up an 18 year old. i moved across state 4 months ago and havent heard a peep from the real dad, well me and my hubby are looking at moving home soon and i know just as soon as we pull in back home my sons sperm doner is going to just be up my butt trying to take my son cause its convenient for him to care at that moment. i would tolerate it for a while until he got sick of "caring" but ive heard from 2 close friend while ive been gone that his house is nasty nasty and when his older kids come to visit he doesnt feed them more than 1-2 times a day and they get yelled at for asking for more food and the 18 yr old prego gf offered a ciggarete to one of them even!! the situation is to the point where the other kids refuse to go over there and the mom wont send them. so now that you know most of the situation what would you do? we have already gone and set up custody which gives him visitation and i have a child support case set up but he just never pays hes about 5000 behind on actually. but my son is too young to decide and too young to tell me if he is being fed properly and in a clean place. And needless to say my husband doesnt want to send him at all and thinks i should refuse visitation for these reasons and feels like he is my sons dad. i honeslty just dont know the right thing to do here??