Holly - posted on 01/08/2013 ( 57 moms have responded )
unless you are a step mom you will not EVER be able to understand the feeling. The feeling that you are supposed to have this unconditional love for these children and to have NEVER ENDING PATIENCE with these kids. just as a mother is supposed to. but when everything goes to hell in a hand basket YOU get blamed... and when everything is just peachy the mother gets rewarded for teaching them how to be such great kids. The mother threatens who knows what if you attend the piano recital but then bad mouths you for not showing because you must not care enough... tells you that you can not throw a birthday party at your home for her, but are apparently too petty to show up for the one that SHE threw.
you'll NEVER understand the feelings when your 10yo step daughter tells you that your a whore for stealing her daddy and all his love from them (the stepdaughter and mommy) even though you didn't even start dating him until 3 years AFTER the divorce. you haven't been there when your teen stepdaughter will call up her dad to ask to hang out, only to come over borrow money and then 5 minutes later leave.
you haven't been there when your 6yo step kid constantly destroys your own kids personal belongings, or steals their things that their uncle brought them back from the navy simply because she didn't have one.
you haven't been there, so don't judge.