In desperate help: absolutely devastated

Eleni - posted on 02/26/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm 43 yrs old and have a beautiful funny 5yr old little boy and my husband is turning 50yrs old next week and doesn't want another baby.
I can't cope and can't stop thinking about his decision. I feel pregnant over a yr ago and had a miscarriage and I didn't cope very after that. He told me then will try again and now that I'm really again to conceive again we have been arguing a lot when our little boy is in bed about having a second child. I fall pregnant easily and I conceive our little boy at 37 and gave birth at 38yrs old. I met my husband and we married late. I married at 35yrs old. I never thought I would be left with one child. My husband is a good, loving and wonderful husband and dad. Normally when he says NO, not long after that I get my way but not this time. It's been three months of constant conversations and arguments and now I'm not talking to him and it's killing me.
I don't know what wake to do and can't stop crying.
When we are active he pulls out and his very good at that.
Pls help............

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Why did he change his mind about having another baby? Did you ask him why when he told you after your miscarriage that you guys would try again. Maybe sitting down and having a calm talk to him about your feelings. As a husband he should know you deep need for another child maybe he is scared about losing another baby? Sometime men don't really deal with feelings maybe he is still hurting and scared.

Try talking to him not yelling or arguing. Let him know you value his opinion in this but you really want another child and he knew this and agreed to it before and changing his mind is really hurting you.

I hope you are ok and that you and your husband can work this out

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Eleni - posted on 02/28/2014

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Thk you for ur reply Melissa,
We have spoken about this yr in jan 2014 and
One of his concerns was that his turning 50
Yrs old next week and feels old and doesn't have
The same energy as he used too. His father passed
Away at 68 with stomach cancer and his also
Mentioned if he has the same fate as his father
I would be left with two young children.
He says he did want two children if only
If he was younger. The only reason we fell
Pregnant last yr was he did it more for me.
My husband is a quite wonderful husband
But fear always crosses his mind and stops
Him from many things.
I think I have really stressed him out know
cos he looks really sad and his so cute when
He has this look.....
I might give it a rest for now as his bday is next
Week and his not happy that's his turning 50.
I wanted to surprise him with a huge bday party
With loved ones but he just doesn't want to celebrate
His 50th bday.
I pray to god and to my angels that we do
Conceive this year but the more I think about
It everyday the more anxious I'm getting.
I don't know....I have a beautiful little boy and
Husband that need me which I love but I still
Need to have another baby.
I have no idea who to handle this but I do know
I should stop stressing my husband about it.
It's so nice when people reply to messages,
It feels nice.
Thk u xx

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