Leslie - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 45 moms have responded )
it seems everyday when i talk to my mother in law, she seems to have done something that irritates me.
she and my father in law watch my daughter 3 days out of the week, they have done so since she was 6 weeks old. they totally adore her. they would obviously do anything for her, accept listen to what my husband and i tell them.
a few weeks ago i found out they are letting her crawl along the couch without anyone making sure she didn't fall off. apparently this is a regular game they play with her. when she does fall off(usually head first), they don't comfort her or pick her up because "she needs to know that she needs to stay off the edge" i couldn't believe it, what the hell are they thinking?? she still has a soft spot on the top of her head!! why is it ok just to let her fall headfirst into the floor?
when she was 4 weeks old she wouldn't stop puking all day, so i took her to the hospital, they then told me i needed to go to childrens hospital to see if her intestines were ok. thank god everything was alright, but the doctor told me i needed to just feed her pedialite for a day. and of course, i dropped her off at the in laws and learned that my mother in law when behind my back, and against doctors orders and fed her some formula, because poor myah was hungy. THEN FEED HER MORE PEDIALITE!
they fed her peanut butter when she was 7 months old,when i told them they can't do that until she's a year old, they said im such a prude and i don't let her have any fun. but when her best friend said the same thing, automatically it was a different story.
she's had problems gaining weight all her life. and just recently she actually lost weight. so i left them with some nice fattening beef and cheese to feed her. my mother in law didn't like that, so she is feeding her watermelon and ice cream insead. and little bits of beef in between. when i said something about the nutritional value of this whole feeding regiment, she snapped at me and said "well you tell me you want her to gain weight, what the hell do you want from me" sorry but ice cream for a nine month old as a staple in her diet is not necessary!!!
i learn all these things about her online and in books, and any time i repeat anything new i learned to them, they always always say "i never did that with any of my boys and they turned out fine". just like with honey, i just learned that you can't give it to infants younger than a year because it could contain a deadly disease (linked to 10% of sids cases) that could kill her. and of course i got that exact line.
everything i think is wrong, everything i do is wrong. everything they do is right. i am to the point where i don't want to bring her over there anymore. or i just want to tell my mother in law off in the worst way. it is really getting beyond rediculous. i don't know what to do.
"grandma's are supposed to spoil the grandkids..right???"
"grandma's are always better than the mom and dad"
-mother in law