In Laws

Alex - posted on 06/08/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )




OK so my In Laws are driving me crazy. They each think that they have some right over my daughter than the next. I recently let my daughter go spend time with my husbands father and step mom. But my mom seems to think that I shouldn't be so trusting of people I barely know even though they are my husband's family, I have met and stayed with them more than once and I trust my husband that he wouldn't let our daughter stay with people that will harm her. Family or not. Now his mom on the other hand has a total fit about me letting my daughter stay with them because she doesn't like my husband's fathers wife!? I'm being torn on all sides of the family and last time I checked I was the parent. Need advice please


MaryAnn - posted on 06/10/2015




You are mom. Their time with grandchild is a gift. Not a responsibility and definitely not a right. Those lie entirely between yourself and your husband collectively and if they can not handle that, they need to take a step back and reconsider how fit they were as parents... because when they question you... they are also questioning themselves. I wouldn't stand for it.

K - posted on 06/08/2015




Always remember you are the parent for sure. I've learned where my spine is over the years and if I have any doubts at all about who my child is with they do not go. Moms have that extra instinct for a reason. Always go with your gut if you don't like certain situation. Talk about your worries with your husband and you all make that decision. Politely listen to moms/MIL and tell them you will consider their opinion, appreciate their concern, but in the end, these ppl are still your daughters family and you and your husband will make that final decision.

Jady - posted on 06/10/2015




Ahhhh the in laws... you need to simply tell them strait. You are mum! Therfore you no best. There's advice then there's over bearing. Difficult as you don't want to upset them so make dinner invite them over and talk about it. Ask them to step back.

Raye - posted on 06/09/2015




You are the parent, and as long as you and your husband are on the same page, the in-laws on all sides need to settle down and deal with it. It's not their circus, not their monkeys, so they should stop worrying about it. They had their chance to raise their kids the way they saw fit. Now you and your husband should raise your kids the way you see fit. Stay strong, and don't let them bully you.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/10/2015




Tell them all exactly that: The last time you checked, YOU were the parent, not them. Tell them to get over it, that they all will have as much access to the grandchild as they deserve.

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