April - posted on 01/27/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have 3 children ages 10, 8, and 7. My in-laws have always been a big part of their life until about 4 years ago. There was an issue and it was hack going through and caused a little tention between my MIL and myself. However, that has been a long time ago, we both apologized and have moved on. Or so I thought. She plays favorites and it gets worse every day. She has missed 3 of my youngest daughters bday parties and I think she missed one of my oldest, but that wasn't entirely her fault. However, she had never missed my middle daughters party's or anything else she is a part of. They live an hour from us, so plans have to be made every time. She missed my youngest daughters party because she and my FIL had an adult party to go to. They wanted to get drunk, BUT my daughters party was over before the other one even started. So....that was lame. My daughter asked her why they didn't come and she lied and said she had to work. And the had the nerve to whine about my kids not calling on her bday! She is a grown woman who acts 10. My husbands brother is the same way. He picks and chose's which kids party's or event they he wants to attend. They didn't come to my youngest daughters party either. My nephews party is in a month and my husband wants to go because it's his only nephew. He's 2. However, I told him that the kids and I weren't going because my children were getting their feelings hurt. My husband said we need to be the bigger people and not be like them. And I get that and I understand that, but it's not about me at all. I could honestly care less if they ever talk to me again. BUT I won't tolerate my child's feelings getting hurt because an adult doesn't know how to act. My husband said they treated him that way when he was younger and in return at 31 years old he is STILL trying to seek their approval over everything. IT drives me crazy! What should I do? Should I confront his parents? Leave it a lone? Help!