Patricia - posted on 02/03/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
This has probably been discussed here many times, but I really need to let it out.
I am currently 5 months pregnant, almost 6. And this whole time, I have been under a lot of stress because of my in laws, particularly my MIL and brothers in law. They drive me crazy! This will be the first grandchild from my husband's side of the family so I don't blame them for being excited. I'm pretty happy that they are, but its gotten to the point that they have gone crazy over it. I was barely 5 weeks pregnant and my MIL decided that she will throw me a baby shower. Ok, fine with me. She has been obsessed about it ever since. Every time we see her, all she talks about is the baby shower. The worst part is she speaks very little English so everything she says is translated by my husband, and she can talk for hours about the whole thing. She already picked the day, time, and location without even confirming with me and my husband if it will work for us. She said she will be inviting over 50 people, all of which I have never met. I can imagine it being so awkward :( My family wanted to help out and be involved in the baby shower but MIL said she doesn't want anybody getting in her way. It's her way or the high way. Another problem we are having right now is the name we gave our baby. We decided to name him Noah. But my MIL insisted to change it to William. She thinks its not right because it's biblical and she is not a Christian. She argued about it with my husband which is ridiculous. She went as far as saying that she will call him William instead. She thinks she's entitled to do whatever she wants because she's doing us a lot of favors, all of which we never asked for her to do.Then she is also planning on shopping for the baby. She said she will buy the crib, stroller, car seat, etc. Pretty much everything. She told me not to buy anything. Just diapers. My parents are irritated because they feel like she wants to do everything and they are being left out in the picture. She tells me what to do, what to buy, how to save, etc. She keeps giving me advices I don't need. She is always on my space! Another issue is my brothers in law. They are going overboard with trying to make everyone close. The thing is my husband's family are not close. They have so many issues with each other. Ans for some reason they think my son is the solution to their family issues. They all keep on talking about how they can't wait to have him over for sleepovers, take him out, spoil him, and do everything for him. They keep saying that my son is what's gonna bring their family close together. That they can start holiday traditions and family gatherings. I know that having a new addition to the family can definitely help bring family closer. But I just think that if they really want to get along, they would do it, without the help of my baby. It's like they are depending on him to solve their issues. And I would really hate that they have to always use him as an excuse just to make themselves feel better about each other. They also always invite themselves over to our place. They will just show up or call my husband and say they are around the area so they want to stop by. Then they talk to me and act as if we are close (we were never close before, we hardly ever talked to each other). I find it so rude and also annoying how they never used to come over and act like we never existed and now all of a sudden they feel like they can just come over all the time and act as if we have always been close. And I hate how they keep saying "hi family!" every time they come over. Just because we are having a baby, now we are family all of a sudden? And if there's not baby, then we are all on our own? My brother in law recently posted a pic on his instagram sitting on our porch saying "home sweet home" and that really bothers me. I know it will only get worse when the baby gets here. My MIL constantly calls my husband everyday asking about the baby, and he's not even born yet! I can see her coming over every single day wanting to babysit him and do everything. My family is pretty upset and worried because I'm so stressed. My husband tried talking to his family but they don't listen. They think they are only doing what's right. They are honestly scaring me and I want to move away as far as possible!