In need of a word, my hart is aching!

Yadira - posted on 09/23/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My sons 18 birthday is next Sunday, n i never felt so sad for another year of hes life. Hes joining the ARMY. Hes my oldest son, and im so, so, so worried , can't sleep well, all day i think of him, praying to go to change his mind, but hes so proud to b in the military. Looking through the internet for support, i found this page, hoping to find some relieve, don't understand why my baby want to go away from me :-(

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Shannon - posted on 09/24/2014

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Kids grow up, its a fact of life. My eldest wants to join the military too, as much as I fear for him being sent to a war zone I admire his decision to do what he wants in life.

Guest - posted on 09/24/2014

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That said, a lot of people thrive in the military. It is a very structured environment with a very clear authority structure. Sometimes that helps people if they don't quite know where they fit yet. My husband was in the Navy when he was very young--before I met him. He says it was a wonderful experience because he got to travel the world and see lots of places he would never have seen on his own. Desert Storm 1 began while he was in the Navy, but he was on an ammunition supply ship, so he was very, very well protected and he didn't have to really fight anyone.

Also, a lot of people really, really respect people who serve in the military, and there are a lot of benefits. My husband got money for college--not much, but enough to get him started--we got a special loan for our house so we didn't have to have a lot of cash up front, and he still gets thank you's and discounted meals and tickets sometimes.

Guest - posted on 09/24/2014

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I'm sorry.
It is natural for our children to want to leave when they grow up, and go be out on their own, but I'm sure I would be devastated if my son told me he wanted to join the military. The entry level positions are so dangerous and they embrace so much violence.

Would he consider maybe going to college first so that he can be an officer in the Military? I have some friends who are in the military and are officers. Their jobs can be very demanding, but over all, I think their quality of life is much better than those in the enlisted positions.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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He doesn't want to 'go away', he simply is growing up and making choices about his life.

Same with all of the other kids out there. We all experience it. You should be proud of your son, and support him. If you cannot do that, don't make it harder for him by being selfish and holding him back.

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