Sarah - posted on 03/22/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a nephew who is married and has a two year old son. I received an invitation to the shower for the child and I responded, attended and gave a generous gift. They are expecting a girl in April. Her mother had a shower for her this past weekend. I had no idea they were even having a shower, I did not receive an invitation. My relatives hassled me about it at a family gathering last night to celebrate MIL birthday. I was told, that my niece-in-law and her mom were shocked and hurt that I did not RSVP nor attend. The invitation was on Facebook, and only on Facebook. I did not even get an email invitation. I don't look at Facebook much and if I left the alert on, my phone would never stop chiming. I have two issues:
1. I don't think you should have a formal shower, when you have already had a child. Unless, it has been five years and your baby stuff is gone or old or you are having twins and need more items. A small casual "girl baby" shower, sure I can see that, but this was a big fancy shower.
2. I don't think Facebook is the right place to put an invitation. If you do go that route and you don't here from me, call me or email me and ask me if I am coming.
I would not have gone, but I certainly would have sent a small gift for the baby and I already had planned to send a gift after she was born.
I cannot believe that everyone thinks that I am in the wrong for missing the shower and good heavens I did not RSVP! When I send out invitations, lots of people don't respond and if I need a head count, I call. I suppose my question is: What is the etiquette for baby showers for second babies and do you think social media the place for the invitation?