In Total SHOCK & hurting at the same time...

Deanna - posted on 05/09/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 12 y/o son has been very distant lately and when I went to talk to him about it (cause we use to talk about anything & everything) he got really upset with me and told me that there was nothing wrong and to stop asking him. So i left it at that. But a month prior to this we were talking about a girl he really liked and wanted to ask out but mind you she is a girl he grew up with when he goes to his dad's on the weekends and apparently she has turned him down twice and he is all upset, IDK if it's the rejection, puberty or what but he wouldn't talk to me, so I got his father on the phone (since that was the only person he would talk to) and apparently my son hates me and doesn't know why and can't explain it and doesn't want to live with me anymore. So his dad decided to take him for the summer, which is killing me because I have never been away from him more than a weekend. I am so confused and don't know how to handle this? My son is currenlty giving me the silent treatment and won't talk to me, does anyone have any ideas what I can do to get him to talk to me like we use to?? If it is puburty or what?? I just dont get how we went from be really close and talking about everything to this??

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Louise - posted on 05/09/2012

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It sounds that way to me too Deanna, he is not handling rejection well. Let him go to his dads and clear his head. he will soon realise he is better off with you, and after a short stay will be asking to come back. He may need to be with his dad right now, us mums see things differently. The fact that you know about this girl and his feelings towards her is probably embarrassing to him. He needs to put this behind him and move on and the only way to do this is to get away for a while. Dont take it to heart, he is doing this because he has no clue how to react. Just give him time.

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Deanna - posted on 05/09/2012

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Thanks Louise, I'm really hoping that is what it is, guess only time will tell.

Deanna - posted on 05/09/2012

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ohh I forgot to mention that my son is all gung-ho about going to his dad's for the summer and when atlking on the phone last night he asked his dad if he does go for the summer will that girl be there at his dad's friends house and his dad told him no she is actually goign to her dad's for the summer so he won't see her at all cuase it is out of state and my son had a huge sign of sadness. so that is what it making me think it is about this girl he had a crush on and he is taking it out me...

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