Inappropriate Teacher Behavior/Actions

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Hello everyone! I have a first grader that came home today so sad! So, Olivia comes home and I ask her every single day how was her day in school, what did you do, what did you have for lunch, etc. Today the class was celebrating a birthday so everyone received a cupcake. According to Olivia, the reacher handed out the cupcakes to all of the children, Olivia started eating some of the frosting and because she didn't wait until they sang happy birthday the teacher took her cupcake away. The entire class sings happy birthday to the student and they sit and eat their cupcakes and my daughter sat in her chair watching everyone else enjoy their cupcake and she put her head down and started crying. Apparently, the teacher didn't want anyone to eat until after they sang but Olivia said she didn't hear her give those instructions. While I do understand that the teacher may be wanting to teach the children to follow directions I think it was mean and unnecessary to make her sit in class and watch everyone else eat their cupcake while she sat with her head down and cry. She could have explained to Olivis what she did wrong and gave her the cupcake afterwards. I am upset and want to reach out to the teacher to ask her about the entire situation. Am I overreacting? What would you do? Any advice is appreciated!! Thank you so much!!

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Michelle - posted on 10/08/2016

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I have never believed my children's "side" of a story fully. They always like to make it sound like they are the victims and didn't instigate anything! My boys have been terrible for that until they realized that unless the tell me the whole story, I won't sympathize with them.
Don't get me wrong, I will listen but will also ask them what they did to start with. You just know when you aren't getting told the complete truth.

Jodi - posted on 10/08/2016

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Maybe it was that we dared suggest that sometimes a first grader's description of what happened isn't always particularly accurate..... it's ALWAYS worth getting the whole story before reacting because then it can be dealt with appropriately. Please don't be that cotton wool mum.

Dove - posted on 10/08/2016

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My son got in 'trouble' (had to move his clip down which was like the end of the world to him) once in K for picking up a crayon and handing it to another kid. He came home and sobbed his little heart out (because that's just what he does when he gets in trouble... even now at 8.5). It was a substitute teacher that day, so I never did get to 'sort' it out, but I did bring it up to his regular teacher the next day. I just simply told her what he said had happened and that he was upset about it because he didn't understand the problem. The end. I support my children's teachers and their decisions unless it is actually harmful to the child and in over a decade of having 3 different kids in schools... so far there hasn't actually been an issue of harm. Some of annoyance on the student's part, absolutely... and I let my kids express that fully, but I don't go after some teacher's head (even if I might silently think they were off).

Granted, the OP ran away, so this will fall on deaf ears... but maybe she's still 'stalking' the page. ;)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/08/2016

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My take was the same. She wasn't immediately told that she should have the teacher's head, so she left. Having been the victim of foot -in-mouth syndrome a couple of times, I learned to get the other side of the story before deciding on a course of action

Ev - posted on 10/08/2016

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I looked at this and then the responses and looks like this mom did not like the answer she got either. I am guessing she wanted to hear that the teacher was in the wrong and should have given back that cupcake.

Michelle - posted on 10/08/2016

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I agree with Jodi, there are always 2 sides to a story so it's best to check with the teacher what was said first.

Jodi - posted on 10/07/2016

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What would I do? I'd actually ask the teacher what happened, for their version of the story and then, if you have issues, discuss your concerns with the teacher. You've just received a first grader's version of events. There are two sides to every story.

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