Charisse - posted on 09/14/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have 2 kids, have been separated from their Dad for 5 1/2 years. He would see them every 2 weeks and maybe a day during one of those weeks off...maybe. And it would usually always only be my son, not my daughter. Their Dad would call and only ask for him.
We recently moved. Its a half hour further from our other house. The kids still see their Dad every other weekend but the odd day during the week has been cut out. Also moved in with my fiance and his kids. Their Dad now asked if our son could download an app on his ipod to text him (not our daughter). Here are the problems I have with this: 1) he only asked for our son to have it 2) now their Dad texting everyday. Our son is getting upset because he has that constant reminder that he doesn't see his Dad. Asking everyday when he will go over there. When it is not possible until the following weekend. Before we moved he didn't call or text for 9-10 days after dropping them off. After he gets these texts he gets upset and asks when he gets to go to Dads.
I don't feel its very good for our son. We are all adjusting living in a new house with more people. (they have 3 step-siblings) Our son doesn't need the added worry of when he will see his Dad.
I think we should keep things consistent with how much contact there was before.