Infertile after a miscarriage??????

Jane - posted on 07/21/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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After I had a miscarriage July of last year, my husband and I decided to try again. It's been a year and no result as in not pregnant. I spoke with my OB/GYN, she said we could do the ovulation tests and go on from there. Before our first child we did all that and more. We even did acupuncture and massages. We don't know what worked then. Is this happening to someone else?

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Denise - posted on 07/24/2009

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Jane - I didn't have a miscarriage, but I did have an ectopic (tubal) pregnancy. After a few years of practicing, my husband and I decided that we wanted to start having kids. The very first month, we were pregnant. What should of been our happy times, turned into our worst nightmare. I had an ectopic pregnancy which landed me in the hospital for emergency surgery to save my life. They had no choice in the situation but to take the baby, and terminate the pregnancy. Anyway, that was back in '02. We tried for several years to conceive, but had no luck. We went to so many doctors, did 5 artificial inseminations, and then were referred to a fertility doctor in San Diego. We had every test ran both on me and my husband and found nothing wrong with either one of us. It was claimed to be "undiagnosed infertility". We finally did invitro (IVF) in 2005 and had our first son in July '06. We went back and did another IVF last year and our second son was born Jan '09. We plan on doing one more at the end of the year and hopefully will have our third and last child next year. Hang in there, and remember just because you were able to get pregnant once, doesn't mean it will happen again. Keep trying and if that doesn't work, don't be afraid to talk to your doctor. Good luck and I wish you the best of luck.

Merri - posted on 07/23/2009

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I have to say you're trying too hard. Don't think about it, just have fun practicing. Even when you are tired as can be, take time for it, but don't think baby, your losing concentration when you do. I say this cause we tried for a long while with each of our children. We moved to our new place and the first month I was pregnant. Had a little girl. Time went on, we decided to have another baby and it seemed to take so long, we were in process of fixing a home up, remodeling and such, found out I was pregnant. So we were told and decided it was true, we were just trying too hard. A few years later I we decided we wanted another baby, but my oldest was 12, I was 33, had to think about it being a older mom, but it is what we wanted so we tried over a year and then just gave up. My mom had passed away so we were doing some remodeling to her house and going to move in it, and wouldn't you know it, I find I am pregnant. We were so happy again. I gave birth to our 3rd little girl in April this year. We are very happy about it all. But ya see when you get your mind off it, most usually it will happen. I wish you the best of luck andif after several months, go to OB and have them check hormones and such. I did take a womans vitamin for just over a month when I found out I was expecting. That might help if you already don't take one. Even prenatal vitamins are good to take when trying to concieve, I'm sure something will happen soon, don't give up totally, just put it in the back of your mind and have fun "Practicing" Keep us posted.

Gillian - posted on 11/30/2013

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Hi, The theory is that the interaction between the brain and the reproduction system is dysfunctional and to correct this you must rebalance yourself. Maybe acupuncture and massage is not enough.
I feel the psychological approach is needed and must be backed up by the acupunture(healing).
Pschotherapy or regression will release the toxic negaive energy from the subconscious while working to calm the conscious at the same time..
Hope this helps..

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Lilliann - posted on 07/23/2009

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start taking thr prenatal vitamins, that help me after a miscarriage. Good Luck!

Meg - posted on 07/23/2009

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After having 4 miscarriages i turned to Chinese acupuncture and herbs. I saw 3 OB/GYNs who could not find anything wrong with me and told me it was just bad luck but my Chinese doctor told me that each time you miscarriage your body acts as though it has given birth and is totally depleated. If this isnt renourished it makes it harder for it to get back. He started treating me with acunpuncture and and herbs and in now have a beautiful 8 week old girl. If nothing else is working i suggest giving it a go! Good luck

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Practice, practice practice, I conceived my daughter on a 10 day reunion visit at 38 (my DH is navy) then had 3 miscarriages (1 serious). Then started acupunture etc and was pregnant on the third month I also used the Basal Body chart where you take your tempurature before you gt out of bed every morning. (have a copy if you want one) and I realised I was having sex too late in my cycle and NOT enough...LOL Now I have my gorgeous son.

Tracy - posted on 07/23/2009

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Hi, Jane! First of all, I want to say how sorry I am for your loss. I miscarried in May 2006. I had a rough time with the miscarriage physically. I started hemorrhaging and had to have emergency surgery. My greatest fear was that something would go wrong in the surgery and I wouldn't be able to get pregnant again. As the months went by and I didn't get pregnant, I got more and more stressed. My OB decided to try a cycle of Clomid, and I got pregnant immediately. She said that sometimes after a miscarriage, your body gets out of whack and the Clomid ensures ovulation. The risk of multiples is slim to none...something like 3% or something. Anyway, it worked very quickly for us, and we have a beautiful 20 month old brother for our 4 year old daughter. When our son was 6 months old, we found out we had a little surprise package on the way, and we now have another beautiful son!



I wish tou and your husband all the best!! I'll say a prayer for you!

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i hope i can be an inspiration for you...i have just had my 5th child...a boy after 4 girls...and he was my 11th pregnancy...i was told i couldnt have any children after my 1st miscarriage (i was 19weeks)...i was given no explanation after i lost my son...it took me 5 yrs to fall pregnant again only to miscarriage again...but after 2months i still felt pregnant and i went to have a ultrasound to find a 17week old baby...i lost her twin...shes now 13yrs....i then fell pregnant a yr after her...then again 3yrs later...then more loses but i have 5 beautiful children and yes some i have had help in concieving with clomid & metformin but i never gave up...please keep trying and dont take no for an answer...you did once before maybe you r putting too much stress on yourself good luck

Sarah - posted on 07/22/2009

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this happened to me too, i miscarried in aug of 07 and i didnt get pregnant again until janurary of this year. it took a long time, a year and a half,it was frustrating and heart breaking to see all these other people around me having babies when i wanted another one so badly. I didnt think that we would have a third child, i was pretty convinced that it would never happen for us. When we finally decided that we werent going to try anymore thats when it happened for us. It took us by surprise because we had sat down and finally decided that we would be satisfied with our two little boys and then I was a couple days late for my cycle, which wasnt abnormal for me and for some reason i decided to test not even thinking that it would be positive, and sure enough it was, our little girl will be here in oct. anyways, just try to relax and not think about it so much and stress over it and I bet it will happen for you too!! Good Luck!!

Amy - posted on 07/22/2009

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Don't give up, but try not to stress. I had 5 confirmed miscarriages before my baby boy came along, it could be something as easy as low hormone levels (which was my case), or you may need a little more help than that. There have been many advances in reproductive medicine!
I will be anxiously awaiting your "I'm 13 weeks pregnant and everything is great" post!

DonnaMarie - posted on 07/21/2009

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Jane, I knkow what you are going through. My husband and I tried since 1997 to have a baby. We had a total of 10 pregnancies and I do have 2 beautiful babies. My daughter was born in 2002 and my son in 2008. She was pregnancy 5 and he was pregnancy 10. I did go to a fertility specialist and found that I have a thyroid condition and I have slightly elevated a.n.a's (a sign of lupus). I was treated during my pregnancies very early with prednisone and a blood thinner and I needed progesterone to keep the pregnancies going. It was hell and it was not easy. I would suggest seeing a fertility specialist, and the ovulating kit is helpful. But I can tell you that both my pregnancies that resulted in my children were just done natural. We had just moved into a new home and 5 months later I found out I was pregnant. The second one I was turning 40 and had decided that I was not going to try anymore and started giving away all my baby things and in June we found out we were pregnant. I know not stressing helps but how can you not stress and be disappointed every month. I truly know what you are goiong through. I also believe in the power of prayer and if you do there is a Saint that is for motherhood and he is St. Gerard, I prayed to him every night and I have 2 beautiful kids. Also the fertility doctor that I saw was amazing. Hope it helps and good luck.

Abbie - posted on 07/21/2009

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Jane, we miscarried this past March. We are still trying to get pregnant. I had my thyroid checked when I miscarried , that was normal. Have you had yours checked? Do you track when you ovulate? I know with MY body it has changed a ton since the birth of our first child. Also what other stresses are you going through at this time? Some good advice I recieved was: be like teenagers, go have sex like hot teenagers. LOL It is so frustating though. Its hard to explain to someone that has never lost a pregnancy what you are feeling. If you want to talk move email me on here. But accupunture ( just had it done last week for fertility & wellness) can be great, I do massage for a living. You can get results for that stuff- its not just a lot of hype.



It will happen, just be patient( if you are like me you hate that advice) It will happen when its supposed to.

Nicole - posted on 07/21/2009

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This didn't happen to me. I actually got pregnant less than 3 months after my miscarriage but don't give up. I have a daughter that is 13 years old and a 3 month old. I couldn't get pregnant after my daughter because of a condition that I have called Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. I was young when I had my daughter and as I became older I found myself really wanting another child.. I wondered why this was happening to me and I thought I would never have another baby. I even found myself jealous of family and friends that were having baby's. I just spoiled their kids because I figured I wouldn't have another. Then, I found out I was pregnant in March 2008. I was so excited and so was my family. At the time there was a lot going on in my life. Some issues in my love life and my closest Aunt was dying of cancer. I ended up having a miscarriage on April 30th. I was devastated. I didn't even want to try again. I couldn't imagine feeling this way again. Then, in August I wasn't feeling so well. I took a test and it was positive. At this point, I really couldn't get excited because I was so sure I was going to have another miscarriage. I didn't and I have a handsome baby boy. My point is that it will happen if it's meant to be. It may be a year, or maybe even 13, but when you do have another, it makes you love them even more than you could even imagine. Just stop trying, I know that sounds stupid, but have fun with your husband and quit thinking about getting pregnant and it will happen when you least expect it. Good luck! Oh, and by the way I did have a D & C and still got pregnant.

Jane - posted on 07/21/2009

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MAGGIE: D & C = Dilation and Curettage (D&C) it's a common diagnostic and treatment surgery after a miscarriage. I didn't need to have a d&c done. Thanks for all the response. I know I shouldn't stress out and think about it too much but it's very difficult not to. I just wanted to say that I am grateful for this "circle of moms" application. I am able to confide and say what I am feeling and not be embarrassed cause there are other people out there feeling the same way. THANKS!!!!!

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I had 3 confirmed miscarriages, and 2 more suspected losses. One thing you might need to learn is how to track your body's ovulation to learn your most fertile time of the month. Not every woman ovulates every cycle either-it's called an anovulatory cycle. Using over the counter ovulation predictor kits can be helpful. Or the less expensive, but still effective ovualtion test strips. Taking your body's basbal body temperature is also a string indicator of ovulation. There is a great book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler-highly reccommend it! You might ask your doctor to consider a full blood work up for your hormones AND not to exclude your husband, but also a sperm analysis. Your doctor may prescribe Clomid to assist in ovulation, but this medication needs to be strongly monitored and prescribed in low dosages at first, and only used in short term cycles.



In my case, I was able to obtain pregnancies naturally in April '02, via Clomid in July '03, and Clomid + IUI in May '04. All resulted in miscarriage due to a low progesterone deficiency. Once I surprisingly got knocked up again naturally (but most likely still had the Clomid in me) just a month later in June '04, I was fortunate to be under the care of my fertility doctor who discovered the progesterone issue. She saved the pregnancy. I also suspect another loss in 2006, and in 2008. I wish the very best to you!

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The more you stress, the more likely you won't conceive! If it has been a year, some doctors will run some blood work, some won't.(I used to work in a OB/Gyn. office!) Depending on your complete OB history, and whether or not you had a D&C after the miscarriage or any abortions in the past. Typically when you have a miscarriage, if it doesn't come out on it's own, you have a D&C which makes the uterus VERY ready for a baby. If they do your blood work, and it's not you, they should send your husband for a check. They will check his motility, which in turn will give you a % of getting preggo. - So, honestly, try for a couple more months, DON'T STRESS about it and if nothing, schedule an appt. with your doc! GOOD LUCK!

Maggie - posted on 07/21/2009

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i just jad a miscarriage in june and that is my biggest fear right now. we want a second child very badly and i am worried about what the miscarriage has done to future conception. what i try to do is not worry so much. keep trying and if nothing happens naturally then i would suggest talking to your doctor and see what other options are out there for your family. i wish you and your family the best of luck.

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This happened to me as well with my first pregnancy. Miscarried in May of 07, kept trying and May of 08 I was preggars with our son. Just keep at it and try not to stress too much, stress also affects your ability to conceive IMO. Enjoy the fun of trying. :P

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