Paige - posted on 04/06/2015 ( 13 moms have responded )
My partner and I have been going through fertility treatments for over two years now. I have a child from a previous relationship, and my man has taken her on as his own. We want to have another child while my first is still young, so there isn't a big age gap. We found out that he has a very low sperm count and mobility, and since then it has been a roller coaster of emotions between us. I would rather get a sperm donor, but he has told me he "made the decision" to get IVF and that's that. Our communication has gone down the toilet ladies. I understand this is a sensitive issue for men (women too for that matter) but how can we deal with this if we can't talk? No matter how I approach him, on any subject regarding fertility, he ends up getting mad. If I force the issue, he goes days without speaking to me. He has a plan and he views any disagreement, or wanting further discussion, as an attack. I don't understand how he can claim to love my daughter as his own, then fight tooth and nail to have his own. He claims sperm donation won't be his own kid. I am starting to fear that once 'his' baby is here, my daughter's relationship with him will suffer. We have had an amazing relationship until these issues with fertility. I understand stress changes people, but I'm lost as to how to get that relationship back. Am I being paranoid? How can I rebuild a team/partnership again? If anyone has gone though relationship issues due to infertility, I would love to hear from you. I love my man, and don't want a baby to be the solution or cause of our issues. Thanks in advance!