inlaw trouble

Molly N - posted on 01/07/2015 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My mother in-law moved in with us a little over a year ago (it was only going to be for two weeks just to get her situated in her own place again) she has a job all she has to pay is insurance and a small 100.00 trailer payment we paid to hear her trailer moved and all but water set up but she spend all her money on magazine junk. And is still living with us. It has caused lots of problems with us she is a very negative person she always complains about work and how she hurts all the time (she has cousin arther) I can't stand it any more I have pretty much stopped be interested in my husband I stay in my bedroom all the time unless she is at work. Someone plese give me some advice to get me through. If she actually does it she is going to have the water turned on and heat next payday. I am living on pin and needles. I love my husband and I hate fighting with him.

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Ev - posted on 01/07/2015

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Did you and your husband even sit down to discuss this and work out something in writing with her over her stay and what was expected on the part of all parties?

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Molly N - posted on 01/14/2015

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Me to carolyn its miserable I'm getting ready to start showing her the way out course I'm getting ready to clean my front Mudd room patio out and make her scrub her dogs pee up and clean his cage I hope I make her mad I'm just waiting for her to say one wrong thing and I will have a reason to tell her if you don't like it there the door you have your place ready other than the water and well you can get around that it has sent just been this year either it been since my father in law passed away in 2009 and it got worst when we got our house two years ago she would get off work and she would be here till 8-9 at night almost every night so I already felt smothered then he moved her in it was a year in September so not I fill like I'm be choked out and it don't help that we live in southern illinois so there is really nothing to do especially in the winter time lots in the summer but nothing in the winter unless you like the cold and want to hike thru the forest lol I only have one other person I can talk to about this and he would talk to my husband but he is out of state till spring and that's the man we are buying our house off of he has told my husband he need to get mom out. That's the only reason its gone as far as it has now. Lol well I am going to shut up now so you don't get sick of hearing it. It helps to get things off my chest and not start a fight in the process thank you again

Carolyn - posted on 01/14/2015

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I know it is his mom but sometimes you have to take the bull by the horn. Even though her feelings are going to be hurt he has to stand up for you all. The saying is family tree can bend but can't break. Her feeling may get hurt but I hope in the long run she will understand you guys position. You want your in laws around but hey not that close sometimes. It is awful you have to be in your room all the time when it is your house. I hope she can come to her senses and let her son be happy.

Molly N - posted on 01/14/2015

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We have done everything that we can now she has to do her part so no she's not out and unless I go pay another 300 to get her water turned on I don't know when it will happen she can't seem to quit spending money thank you for your concern Carolyn I don't fill so alone with this at least my husband wants her out to but he won't tell her to get things done its his mom and he don't want to hurt her filling she is one of these that make it all about her she starts crying all the time because we stay in our bed room in the evenings a lot of the time. I do every night and he does most nights.

Carolyn - posted on 01/14/2015

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just wanted to know if everything worked out. hope you are now in control of your home.

Molly N - posted on 01/10/2015

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Yes I agree carolyn and I have soposedly she is going to get her water turned on this week but we will just have to see if it happens I'm at the point now where I am not keeping my hopes up too much I think the longer she here the bigger the wedge is getting and I thing he is finally seeing it. When she not at work I stay in my room I don't hardly talk to her at all. I am trying to be patient but it wearing very thin thank you for your input.

Carolyn - posted on 01/09/2015

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I think its about time that you and your husband have the talk so you can have your peace of mind. Helping for a while and staying for a year is a whole different story. You need to put your foot down. After all is your home.

Molly N - posted on 01/07/2015

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I agree on not enough comunication he didn't fill the need to ask me what I thought of his mom staying with us for a little bit I'm all for helping someone but not when they are capable and won't help them selves she just get paid and pays her very small amount of bill then blows the rest of her money we was going to take a vacation with the kids in December and it fell through because we had to take care of setting her trailer up for her now all I get is we are still going we just have to wait. I am just totally fed up I hope she sticks with the plan and gets the water and heat taken care of on payday I will pack her and her obnoxious little dog up I haven't been able to have friends over or anything any way thank you for your opinion evelyn. I really do appreciate it.

Ev - posted on 01/07/2015

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You and your husband should have stuck to that then. It sounds like there was not enough communication going on.

Molly N - posted on 01/07/2015

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No it was one of those things go with mom to her house and get a few thing to get her by for a couple weeks till we get her new place put together (her house was not livable.) This was a year and four months ago. I was not given a choice it was only for a couple week after all.

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