inlaws and my babies

Lynn - posted on 02/11/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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We live with my in laws. They respect our wishes but... when our 2 year old cries in her room and resist sleeping, I can hear negative mumbling from my in laws room. About an hour into our 2 yr old crying, as we stand by our toddlers room, my mother in law will come out of her own room with the excuse, she's just getting a glass of water. Although she doesn't interfere with our method, we tell her not to go in Jenny's room just to make sure she doesn't complicate things by giving in. My father in law leaves for work at 5 am. My mother in law waits until everyone leaves for work before leaving her room. That leaves my mother in law and myself all day with my two babies, one 2 year old toddler and her 3 month old baby brother. Until our house is finished being built, my in laws gave us full reign of their home. I feel grateful and resentful at the same time. What was once a healthy relationship has become a strained one. My 2 year old is in her own room. Baby Jake sleeps in our room. Only Jenny our 2 year old sleeps by herself. When she resist sleeping by screaming and crying, I believe my mother in law wants to interfere with our methods of letting Jenny cry herself to sleep while we stay outside Jenny's door. We tell her not to go in there and recently she told me off for that. Between my babies, my husband and my mother in law I'm at my wits end.

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Lynn - posted on 02/12/2014

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We begin each night with reading books until she falls asleep. She has a night light and a sound filter to shut out the noise in the house. Some nights she will sleep for two or three hours and than wake up and start crying. Sometimes it takes an hour before she will stop crying. "She doesn't cry straight through for one hour". She will quiet down and than sporadically start up again. We are trying to break this new sleeping pattern. We always stay outside her door and reassure her we are there. We also let her know we will check on her once she stops crying. Its difficult for all of us. After all there are 4 adults in one house.

Jodi - posted on 02/11/2014

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I'm sorry, did I read that you leave your 2 year old crying for an HOUR? If I didn't misread that, then I can understand why your mother in law has an issue with your method.

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