DJ - posted on 04/28/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hey lovelies! I am new here and if I ramble or posted in the wrong space please inform me. I am a happily married,mother of two beautiful girls. My issue is, my oldest which turned 13 not even one month ago has changed.
No, I am not talking about acting more mature. I am talking about from loving tigers,horses,drawing to want to be goth,by wearing black shirts,jeans,never anything girlie. (Yes up until her birthday she was wearing frilly, cute girls tops)
I allowed her to get her hair cut in emo style as that's popular here, and dyed it black(temporary color nothing damaging).
Then my husband upgraded to XBOX 1 and we put the 360 in their room. They play online on his account which we didn't mind.
Well about 2 wks ago we noticed her acting strange,secretive about her online time. I went in after she went to school,searched through. Well random messages,hi,what's up, basic stuff then a add me on text now and kik.
I'm new to tablet apps for teens so I looked it up.
Come to find out my innocent daughter was talking on both of them same guy from online.We told her we didn't mind if she talked on the game but it doesn't leave the 360 no texting and such. I mean come on that's a parents right,and safety issue.
Well boy, did I have a bad cry, my daughter had over 400 messages from this boy to and from. From I hate my life, to I cut if you don't message me back, and then he wants to know where she wants IT to go! OMG ,yes IT!!!
I went from sadness, to fear to anger towards this boy who claims to be 14. None of the messages came across as childlike.
So, I took away all internet,tablet privileges. Did I mention he messaged wanting them to run away together, and how he would stop for them to charge phones and keep contact with certain people.
I told her a month first few days I had my girl back,sweet,innocent and loving. Well fool me I guess, she started getting secretive again so I went in her room where she threw her notebook down. I was like :
Me-Hey silly what are you doing?
A-Oh Nothing mom,drawing but I'm not finished....
She went to bed and then I snuck in for the notebook, wow my daughter has been going behind my back,writing notes to this boy and getting her friends to send on to him. I am so done with this crap! I put the papers back in so she didn't know what I seen. She has 16 days left of school, so taking her out isn't an option. But I am seriously torn between allowing her in school next yr or homeschooling.
I mean what's to say this boy doesn't know where we live? I know he is from Kansas and is persistent on getting her and doing things to her. Her talking to him and saying whatever is putting our family safety at risk and making her change drastically. Claiming she loves a boy she never even met, then mentioned mom can I go to a friends house this summer SHE lives in Kansas,haha would have fell for that if I wouldn't have read your plan on his messages.
Keep in mind my kids do not date, do not go to random places. I am protective of them and care about safety. What should I do? What would you do?